The “Joy Of Missing Out”
FOMO or, the “Fear Of Missing Out,” has been commonly used in this modern social media age.
It’s easy to pull out your smart phone and look at all the wonderful things everyone else seems to be doing, while you are sitting on your living room couch, or better yet, sitting on your parent’s living room couch.
You see all the amazing things people are doing and start thinking that you’re missing out.
You may be missing out on that specific experience you are observing on social media, but there are even better experiences for you to be had.
So how can you turn your FOMO into JOMO?
The Joy Of Missing Out will build in your life when you create experiences in your life that bring you joy.
It seems simple but most people aren’t creating those experiences!
Instead of focusing on what others are doing and what you “should” be doing, focus on being content with where you are in this moment, and continue to create experiences that bring you joy.
—First ask yourself, “What brings me joy?”
(Nature, music, social gatherings, sports, languages, art, knitting, etc, etc, etc!)
—Second, be intentional with your time. Ask yourself, “What do I have to do to bring more of these joyful experiences into my life?”
(You may have to get out of your comfort zone to join a new group, or buy materials to build or create something.)
“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”
Neale Donald Walsch
—Third, get comfortable with saying “No.”
(When someone asks you to do something you don’t want to do, say no. It’s natural to want to help others, but it’s okay to care about yourself too.)
“I used to be afraid when people used to say ‘oh she’s so full of herself.’ And now I embrace it. I consider it a compliment that I am full of myself. Because only when you’re full, I’m full, I’m overflowing. My cup runneth over. I have so much to offer and so much to give and I am not afraid of honoring myself.”
—Fourth, get away from all technology and momentarily live only with your surroundings.
(There is a deep peace you can find by intentionally not using any technology for some time.)
Fear missing out on moments that would actually bring YOU joy, not experiences that others are having on social media.
When you are feeling the FOMO, remember the important aspects of your life. Your family, good friends, good times, deep talks, travels, the moments that bring you a deep joy.
These are the moments we all should be wanting more of.
Let’s all JOMO a little more, and FOMO a little less.