1) If you can’t figure out your purpose, figure out your passion. For your passion will lead you right into your purpose.
—Bishop T.D. Jakes
2) Almost everything–all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure–these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.
— Steve Jobs
3) I’ve been absolutely terrified every moment of my life and I’ve never let it keep me from doing a single thing that I wanted to do.
— Georgia O’Keefe
4) If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place.
— Nora Roberts
5) A year from now you may wish you had started today.
6) How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.
— Anne Frank
7) Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
— Mark Twain
8) You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.
— C.S. Lewis
9) Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls.
— Joseph Campbell
10) When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.
— Helen Keller
11) Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.
12) There are those who work all day. Those who dream all day. And those who spend an hour dreaming before setting to work to fulfill those dreams. Go into the third category because there’s virtually no competition.
— Steven J. Ross
13) The Man Who Has Confidence In Himself Gains The Confidence Of Others.
— Hasidic Proverb
14) The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity.
— Amelia Earhart
15) Follow your own passion—not your parents’, not your teachers’—yours.
16) All progress takes place outside of your comfort zone.
— Michael Bobak
17) The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.
Nothing and no one is “normal”.
There are solely commonalities labeled as normal, and rarities labeled as abnormal, in relation to YOUR experiences...
Spiders build webs to catch flies and other bugs. Flies eat poop, fly around, and many get caught in spiders’ webs, which results in the fly’s death and a spider’s meal. It’s chaos for the fly, but extremely common for the spider.
The same notion can relate to humans – what’s normal for one human would be chaos for another.
For example, say JonJo grows up in a loving household where arguments almost never happen. JonJo goes over to his friend Willis’s house where Willis’s parents argue on the daily — this causes JonJo discomfort because it’s not what he is used to; this is chaos for JonJo, but it’s predictable for Willis.
Another example is in regards to the food we eat. Let’s say JonJo grew up in a household that eats a variety of foods, including all sorts of meats. Willis, on the other hand, grew up in a house that doesn’t eat meat, except for dog on occasion, as dog is a popular food in some countries. JonJo may see eating dog as chaos where Willis doesn’t, and I’m sure the dog sees it as chaos.
The main takeaway from this idea is that every“one” and every“thing” is trying to do things that are normal to them. “Normal” is a predisposition – it’s a concept that has been uniquely formed in each person as a result of the environment they grew up in and the experiences they have had.
This also relates to societal standards throughout time. What was once accepted as normal is now considered chaos, and some things that were considered chaos are now seen as normal. It usually depends on who is judging the experience, but there is an elusive objective perspective.
There is no such thing as “normal”.
There’s solely what is normal for you.
You are the spider AND the fly…
It just depends on who is doing the interpreting.
A lot of people say “don’t try to be perfect” but I disagree.
DO try to be perfect but FIRST DEFINE what perfect is for you!
Perfect is an ideal but it IS something to aim for.
If you don’t aim for the bullseye you’ll never hit it.
If you’re a pitcher in baseball you usually aim for the strike zone.
Pitchers aim for perfection.
Aim for progress and you’ll get less than that.
Aim for perfection and you’ll get progress.
Think about areas in your life that you would like to improve and then aim for the best possible outcome.
The more you aim for what you want, the more you’ll get it. Again, a dart thrower wanting to hit bullseye but never aiming for bullseye will most likely never hit it.
Of course not everything will go perfect, but if you never aim for it you’ll never come close.
Set your aim to the best possible outcome, take action, repeat.
Perfection is the aim. Progress is what you get.
“Watching The Wheels” by John Lennon
Lyrics beneath the video! Enjoy!! :))
People say I’m crazy
Doing what I’m doing
Well, they give me all kinds of warnings
To save me from ruin
When I say that I’m okay, well they look at me kinda strange
“Surely, you’re not happy now, you no longer play the gaaaammeeeeeeee”
People say I’m lazy
Dreaming my life away
Well they give me all kinds of advice
Designed to enlighten me
When I tell them that I’m doing fine watching shadows on the wall
“Don’t you miss the big time boy, you’re no longer on the ballllllllll?”
I’m just sitting here watching the wheels go round and round
I really love to watch them roll
No longer riding on the merry-go-round
I just had to let it go
Lost in confusion
Well I tell them there’s no problem
Well they shake their heads and they look at me as if I’ve lost my mind
I tell them there’s no hurry, I’m just sitting here doing timeeeeeeeeee
No longer riding on the merry-go-round
I just had to let it go
Well, there it is. Love this song. What’s your favorite part of this song?
Why is it important for you to define success?
- It will determine everything you do
- Everything you do determines the quality of your future
- Your future always comes in the form of ‘today’
Defining success gives you an anchor to what is true to you. It helps you stay focused and puts you on a path toward your success.
“Where focus goes, energy flows.”
The term “success” has often been related to having a lot of money, but a more accurate definition of success comes from Oxford Dictionary: “the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.”
If success is the accomplishment of an aim or purpose then success must mean something different to each person.
Maybe success to one person is taking care of their needs while success to someone else is earning $1,000,000 dollars.
The person who defines success as taking care of their needs prioritizes that first in their life, whereas the person who wants to make $1,000,000 dollars may prioritize making money first. Someone who sees success as balancing work with passion will prioritize work with their passion, but in all scenarios each person is guided by what success means to them.
So instead of debating the question “what is real success?” Ask yourself “what does success mean to me?”
When you know what success is for you you automatically put yourself on a path toward that success, but there are distractions all around us. If you don’t have an anchor of what success means to you, to focus on, you’ll get pushed and pulled and never achieve success. Some people spend their entire lives wandering around this Earth questioning why they were never able to achieve success.
Don’t let that be you.
Write down what success means to you on a notecard.
Put it somewhere that you’ll be able to see it everyday.
Let your definition of success guide you to it.
Acting strategies can be used as tools to improve your work environment as well as your life.
If these strategies have enlightened Jim Carrey, in which you can read about below, they might be able to do the same for you. Give them a try and use what works for you!
Acting Strategies To Try At Work
1) Act “As If”
The HuffPost has a good article on Acting “As If”. Click here to read it. The article looks at both sides of this exercise and discusses its benefits. Here is an encapsulating quote from the article:
“When we choose to live with a strong faith in things not seen, not proven, and not guaranteed – we tap into the power of the possible and we supersede the literal and predicable.”
Another good quote from article:
“The question for us to ask ourselves is, ‘What am I acting as if will happen in the most important areas of my life right now?’”
So what do you want to act “as if”?
Think about specific qualities you admire and/or think about one of your role models or a leader in your industry. What would they do in this situation?
Then try it out! Don’t give up after 3 minutes, take time to really dwell in an “as if” situation.
This leads to something similar…
2) Create, then don’t leave your “Stage”
This is another type of method acting.
“All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players: they have their exits and their entrances; and one man in his time plays many parts, his acts being seven ages.”
Every day people are waking up and playing a role; some do it intentionally and some don’t.
The following strategy can be used in any occupation:
Let’s say that you are a pharmacist. In this exercise this is also your “acting role”. Try going into your job pretending that you are an actor, acting as a pharmacist. View everyone you see as fellow actors, acting out their roles!
^This idea can be a trip but I love it.
Related to this strategy is the article about Jim Carrey when he used Method Acting in portraying Andy Kaufman. Check it out here.
Seeing others as fellow actors can help you understand that each “actor” has a role, they have tasks, they are focused on an end goal. This can help you understand peoples’ wants:
“One of the most important keys to acting is that every single person at every single moment of their life has an objective (a want) as well as an action to get what they want. In acting, if you can identify what your character wants at any given time, then you will add a vital element of truth and direction in your work. The same applies to life.”
Knowing that each “actor” has an objective can help you react less and respond more. Reactions are quick and usually without thought whereas Responses are calm and calculated. Reactions are emotional and typically ego-based. Responses are reasonable.
“When egos act defensively (e.g. when we insist that the other person is “wrong”), our judgement becomes clouded. When we focus too much on defending ourselves, we become blocked in our own self-development.”
One of the best qualities an actor can have is active listening. Active listening lets go of the ego to completely engage and focus on the present moment, open to all possibilities(trusting improv), which is where real Joy is experienced, and isn’t that what it’s about?
Joy is contagious. Try the first method to Act “As If” joyful wherever you are and observe the people in your surroundings become more joyful too!
“If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment.”
Actions become habits if repeated long enough, but remember that progress is the goal, not perfection. Every day won’t shine as you’d like but you can work on shining every day.
“Joy is increased by spreading it to others.”
Robert Murray McCheyne
“Let your joy be in your journey—not in some distant goal.”
“There are those who give with joy, and that joy is their reward.”
It can be defined in a number of different ways.
The first definition of failure in the dictionary is “lack of success.”
The second definition of failure in the dictionary is “the omission of expected or required action.”
There are more definitions of failure in the dictionary and although they have close meanings, just a few different words can change the meaning of a word completely.
Looking at the first two definitions of failure it seems to me that those two definitions are quite different.
Personally I don’t believe “lack of success” is an accurate definition of failure because success can also be defined in countless ways. A lot of people consider having lots of money equals success but many people are born into wealth…Are they successful?
For me, the second definition of failure seems more accurate: “The omission of expected or required action.” This definition is more accurate because it tells me that failure is not doing what one knows they should do in order to achieve something. This definition is accurate to me even though successful people fail from time to time. The one thing they don’t do is fail for good. They persist through failure. They see failure as a lesson to learn from instead of a barrier.
It really is okay to fail. And it’s okay to give up too. It’s all okay. But can you accept giving up in pursuit of something you haven’t achieved yet?
Pursuing a dream will involve failures. You choose if they are temporary or fatal failures. Your real choices show up in your actions.
It truly is okay either way. The world will go on with or without us. The real question is, will you go on with or without your dream?