1) If you can’t figure out your purpose, figure out your passion. For your passion will lead you right into your purpose.
—Bishop T.D. Jakes
2) Almost everything–all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure–these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.
— Steve Jobs
3) I’ve been absolutely terrified every moment of my life and I’ve never let it keep me from doing a single thing that I wanted to do.
— Georgia O’Keefe
4) If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place.
— Nora Roberts
5) A year from now you may wish you had started today.
6) How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.
— Anne Frank
7) Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
— Mark Twain
8) You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.
— C.S. Lewis
9) Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls.
— Joseph Campbell
10) When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.
— Helen Keller
11) Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.
12) There are those who work all day. Those who dream all day. And those who spend an hour dreaming before setting to work to fulfill those dreams. Go into the third category because there’s virtually no competition.
— Steven J. Ross
13) The Man Who Has Confidence In Himself Gains The Confidence Of Others.
— Hasidic Proverb
14) The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity.
— Amelia Earhart
15) Follow your own passion—not your parents’, not your teachers’—yours.
16) All progress takes place outside of your comfort zone.
— Michael Bobak
17) The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.
A lot of people say “don’t try to be perfect” but I disagree.
DO try to be perfect but FIRST DEFINE what perfect is for you!
Perfect is an ideal but it IS something to aim for.
If you don’t aim for the bullseye you’ll never hit it.
If you’re a pitcher in baseball you usually aim for the strike zone.
Pitchers aim for perfection.
Aim for progress and you’ll get less than that.
Aim for perfection and you’ll get progress.
Think about areas in your life that you would like to improve and then aim for the best possible outcome.
The more you aim for what you want, the more you’ll get it. Again, a dart thrower wanting to hit bullseye but never aiming for bullseye will most likely never hit it.
Of course not everything will go perfect, but if you never aim for it you’ll never come close.
Set your aim to the best possible outcome, take action, repeat.
Perfection is the aim. Progress is what you get.
Why is it important for you to define success?
- It will determine everything you do
- Everything you do determines the quality of your future
- Your future always comes in the form of ‘today’
Defining success gives you an anchor to what is true to you. It helps you stay focused and puts you on a path toward your success.
“Where focus goes, energy flows.”
The term “success” has often been related to having a lot of money, but a more accurate definition of success comes from Oxford Dictionary: “the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.”
If success is the accomplishment of an aim or purpose then success must mean something different to each person.
Maybe success to one person is taking care of their needs while success to someone else is earning $1,000,000 dollars.
The person who defines success as taking care of their needs prioritizes that first in their life, whereas the person who wants to make $1,000,000 dollars may prioritize making money first. Someone who sees success as balancing work with passion will prioritize work with their passion, but in all scenarios each person is guided by what success means to them.
So instead of debating the question “what is real success?” Ask yourself “what does success mean to me?”
When you know what success is for you you automatically put yourself on a path toward that success, but there are distractions all around us. If you don’t have an anchor of what success means to you, to focus on, you’ll get pushed and pulled and never achieve success. Some people spend their entire lives wandering around this Earth questioning why they were never able to achieve success.
Don’t let that be you.
Write down what success means to you on a notecard.
Put it somewhere that you’ll be able to see it everyday.
Let your definition of success guide you to it.
Acting strategies can be used as tools to improve your work environment as well as your life.
If these strategies have enlightened Jim Carrey, in which you can read about below, they might be able to do the same for you. Give them a try and use what works for you!
Acting Strategies To Try At Work
1) Act “As If”
The HuffPost has a good article on Acting “As If”. Click here to read it. The article looks at both sides of this exercise and discusses its benefits. Here is an encapsulating quote from the article:
“When we choose to live with a strong faith in things not seen, not proven, and not guaranteed – we tap into the power of the possible and we supersede the literal and predicable.”
Another good quote from article:
“The question for us to ask ourselves is, ‘What am I acting as if will happen in the most important areas of my life right now?’”
So what do you want to act “as if”?
Think about specific qualities you admire and/or think about one of your role models or a leader in your industry. What would they do in this situation?
Then try it out! Don’t give up after 3 minutes, take time to really dwell in an “as if” situation.
This leads to something similar…
2) Create, then don’t leave your “Stage”
This is another type of method acting.
“All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players: they have their exits and their entrances; and one man in his time plays many parts, his acts being seven ages.”
Every day people are waking up and playing a role; some do it intentionally and some don’t.
The following strategy can be used in any occupation:
Let’s say that you are a pharmacist. In this exercise this is also your “acting role”. Try going into your job pretending that you are an actor, acting as a pharmacist. View everyone you see as fellow actors, acting out their roles!
^This idea can be a trip but I love it.
Related to this strategy is the article about Jim Carrey when he used Method Acting in portraying Andy Kaufman. Check it out here.
Seeing others as fellow actors can help you understand that each “actor” has a role, they have tasks, they are focused on an end goal. This can help you understand peoples’ wants:
“One of the most important keys to acting is that every single person at every single moment of their life has an objective (a want) as well as an action to get what they want. In acting, if you can identify what your character wants at any given time, then you will add a vital element of truth and direction in your work. The same applies to life.”
Knowing that each “actor” has an objective can help you react less and respond more. Reactions are quick and usually without thought whereas Responses are calm and calculated. Reactions are emotional and typically ego-based. Responses are reasonable.
“When egos act defensively (e.g. when we insist that the other person is “wrong”), our judgement becomes clouded. When we focus too much on defending ourselves, we become blocked in our own self-development.”
One of the best qualities an actor can have is active listening. Active listening lets go of the ego to completely engage and focus on the present moment, open to all possibilities(trusting improv), which is where real Joy is experienced, and isn’t that what it’s about?
Joy is contagious. Try the first method to Act “As If” joyful wherever you are and observe the people in your surroundings become more joyful too!
“If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment.”
Actions become habits if repeated long enough, but remember that progress is the goal, not perfection. Every day won’t shine as you’d like but you can work on shining every day.
“Joy is increased by spreading it to others.”
Robert Murray McCheyne
“Let your joy be in your journey—not in some distant goal.”
“There are those who give with joy, and that joy is their reward.”
It can be defined in a number of different ways.
The first definition of failure in the dictionary is “lack of success.”
The second definition of failure in the dictionary is “the omission of expected or required action.”
There are more definitions of failure in the dictionary and although they have close meanings, just a few different words can change the meaning of a word completely.
Looking at the first two definitions of failure it seems to me that those two definitions are quite different.
Personally I don’t believe “lack of success” is an accurate definition of failure because success can also be defined in countless ways. A lot of people consider having lots of money equals success but many people are born into wealth…Are they successful?
For me, the second definition of failure seems more accurate: “The omission of expected or required action.” This definition is more accurate because it tells me that failure is not doing what one knows they should do in order to achieve something. This definition is accurate to me even though successful people fail from time to time. The one thing they don’t do is fail for good. They persist through failure. They see failure as a lesson to learn from instead of a barrier.
It really is okay to fail. And it’s okay to give up too. It’s all okay. But can you accept giving up in pursuit of something you haven’t achieved yet?
Pursuing a dream will involve failures. You choose if they are temporary or fatal failures. Your real choices show up in your actions.
It truly is okay either way. The world will go on with or without us. The real question is, will you go on with or without your dream?
What does success mean to you?
Is it a lot of money? Cars? Traveling? Being with family? Doing what you love?
Society has had the notion that success means having a lot of money, and maybe that’s success for some people, but not for everyone.
Part of success to me means doing work I love doing, helping others along the way and surrounding myself with family and good friends.
Success is only a word that has a different meaning to everyone.
There isn’t “One” way of achieving success, there are multiple.
So one of the most important questions you can ask yourself is, “What does success mean to me?”
49 Quotes on Success
1) “So first we gotta define success for ourselves then we have to put in the work to maintain it, take that daily tally. Tend our garden. Keep the things that are important to us in good shape.”
2) ”Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”
3) “The greatness of a man is not how much wealth he acquires, but in his ability to affect those around him around him positively.”
4) “There are many aspects to success; material wealth is only one component. …But success also includes good health, energy and enthusiasm for life, fulfilling relationships, creative freedom, emotional and psychological stability, a sense of well-being, and peace of mind.”
5) “It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation.”
6) “Success is really nothing more than the progressive realization of a worthy ideal. This means that any person who knows what they are doing and where they are going is a success. Any person with a goal towards which they are working is a successful person.”
7) “Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.”
8) “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”
9) “You know you are on the road to success if you would do your job, and not be paid for it.”
10) “I’m a success today because I had a friend who believed in me and I didn’t have the heart to let him down.”
11) “Success is not how high you have climbed, but how you make a positive difference to the world.”
Roy T. Bennett
12) “All you need in this life is ignorance and confidence; then success is sure.”
13) “It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.”
14) “A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and gets to bed at night, and in between he does what he wants to do.”
15) “Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.”
Dalai Lama XIV
16) “The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack in will.”
17) “Our greatest fear should not be of failure but of succeeding at things in life that don’t really matter.”
18) “Winners are not afraid of losing. But losers are. Failure is part of the process of success. People who avoid failure also avoid success.”
Robert T. Kiyosaki
19) “The foundation stones for a balanced success are honesty, character, integrity, faith, love and loyalty.”
20) “I find the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead, help them reveal the greatest version of themselves.”
21) “Success does not consist in never making mistakes but in never making the same one a second time.”
George Bernard Shaw
22) “The only time you fail is when you fall down and stay down.”
23) “Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success.”
24) “And will you succeed? Yes indeed, yes indeed! Ninety-eight and three-quarters percent guaranteed!”
25) “I’ve had great success being a total idiot. ”
26) “Eighty percent of success is showing up.”
27) “I have learned that success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome while trying to succeed.”
Booker T. Washington
28) “People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.”
29) “Possessions, outward success, publicity, luxury – to me these have always been contemptible. I believe that a simple and unassuming manner of life is best for everyone, best for both the body and the mind.”
30) “To be independent of public opinion is the first formal condition of achieving anything great.”
31) “Success means we go to sleep at night knowing that our talents and abilities were used in a way that served others.”
32) “The way of success is the way of continuous pursuit of knowledge.”
33) “Action is the foundational key to all success.”
34) “One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation.”
35) “I attribute my success to this—I never gave or took any excuse.”
36) “I know the price of success: dedication, hard work and an unremitting devotion to the things you want to see happen.”
Frank Lloyd Wright
37) “Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.”
38) “Your true success in life begins only when you make the commitment to become excellent at what you do.”
39) “I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life—and that is why I succeed.”
40) “Success comes from knowing that you did your best to become the best that you are capable of becoming.”
41) “Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning.”
42) “What is success? I think it is a mixture of having a flair for the thing that you are doing; knowing that it is not enough, that you have got to have hard work and a certain sense of purpose.”
43) “For success, attitude is equally as important as ability.”
44) “Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It’s quite simple, really: Double your rate of failure. You are thinking of failure as the enemy of success. But it isn’t at all. You can be discouraged by failure or you can learn from it, so go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because remember that’s where you will find success.”
Thomas J. Watson
45) “The real test is not whether you avoid this failure, because you won’t. It’s whether you let it harden or shame you into inaction, or whether you learn from it; whether you choose to persevere.”
46) “The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus.”
47) “Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.”
48) “If you really look closely, most overnight successes took a long time.”
49) “Don’t be distracted by criticism. Remember–the only taste of success some people get is to take a bite out of you.”
I hadn’t checked out Tattered Cover’s website in literally months when an intuitive thought came to me to check out their website. So I did, and saw that Ryan Holiday was coming for a book signing 2 days from the day I checked the site!!
He was scheduled to do a talk and signing from 7-8pm, the only problem was that I worked until 8pm…
Anyway, I took time to draft up a genuine letter from my heart to give to him if I was able to meet him. I got done with work at 8:00pm on the dot that day, which is normal, and I rushed to my car to drive to the Tattered Cover bookstore. I got there in about 10 minutes and literally ran from my car to the bookstore – since it was downtown I had to park a few blocks away.
After getting into the bookstore I asked a worker if Ryan was still there and they told me yes and pointed to where he was. I excitedly but calmly walked closer to him and got in line to meet him. I had my letter with me and I also picked up one of his books to buy-Ego Is the Enemy, which I highly recommend!
I asked some people in line about the talk Ryan had given for the past hour before meeting him. They didn’t tell me much but I was still excited that I was about to meet him. A few minutes later I was at the front of the line. I gave him my letter, we spoke of the book Meditations by Marcus Aurelius, he signed my book and we took a picture together. It was surreal in the moment but the moment got even more surreal a few weeks later…
He read the letter I gave him and emailed me a few weeks after the book signing telling me his company was hiring interns. I had a few tasks to complete for him to see if they wanted to hire me for sure so I did those, which were writing assignments, and he ended up hiring me.
I worked under him for months in which in which I researched and wrote a lottttttt, a lot a lot a lot!!! Haha. I am happy for the challenges he gave me, which I completed, because it has made me a better writer and researcher, but I still have a lot to learn.
We wrote and edited in google docs together and it felt pretty awesome to know that I’m working with Ryan Holiday. I put in my best effort and I think he could see that by the amount of things I completed in the time we worked together.
Anyway, it was an incredible experience working with Ryan and one of the main messages I am giving you is that a single letter can change your entire life.
Go to the book signing.
Write the letter.
Pursue your dreams.
And work hard when opportunity arises.