Self-Help
17 Marcus Aurelius Quotes On Dealing with Other People
1) “Don’t pay attention to other people’s minds. Look straight ahead, where nature is leading you, through the things that happen to you through your own actions.”
2) “When you wake up in the morning, tell yourself: The people I deal with today will be meddling, ungrateful, arrogant, dishonest, jealous, and unfriendly. They are like this because they can’t tell good from evil.”
3) “Welcoming wholeheartedly whatever comes- whatever were assigned—not worrying too often, or with any selfish motive, about what other people say. Or do, or think.”
4) “Don’t waste the rest of your time here worrying about other people—unless it affects the common good. It will keep you from doing anything useful. You’ll be too preoccupied with what so-and-so is doing, and why, and what they’re saying, and what they’re thinking, and what they’re up to, and all the other things that throw you off and keep you from focusing on your own mind.”
5) “God did not intend my happiness to rest with someone else.”
6) “You want praise from people who kick themselves every 15 minutes, the approval of people who despise themselves…..why do you want approval from people who don’t know where or who they are on this planet?”
7) “The tranquility that comes when you stop caring what they say. Or think, or do. Only what you do. Asking yourself: Is this fair? Is this the right thing to do?”
8) “So other people hurt me? That’s their problem. Their character and actions are not mine.”
9) “So remember this principle when someone threatens to cause you pain: the thing itself was no misfortune at all; to endure it and prevail is great good fortune.”
10) “That to expect bad people not to injure others is crazy. It’s to ask the impossible. And to let them behave like that to other people but expect them to exempt you is arrogant—the act of a tyrant.”
11) “If they’ve injured you, then they’re the ones who suffer for it.”
12) “Other people’s mistakes? Leave them to their makers.”
13) “If anyone can refute me-show me I’m making a mistake or looking at things from the wrong perspective— I’ll gladly change. It’s the truth I’m after, and the truth never harmed anyone. What harms us is to persist in self-deceit and ignorance.”
14) “Whenever you are about to find fault with someone, ask yourself the following question: What fault of mine most nearly resembles the one I am about to criticize?”
15) “Don’t be put off by other people’s comments and criticism.”
16) “Not to be distracted by their darkness. To run straight for the finish line, unswerving.”
17) A straightforward honest person should be like someone who stinks: when you’re in the same room with him, you know it. But false straightforwardness is like a knife in the back. False friendship is the worst. Avoid it at all costs. If you’re honest and straightforward and mean well, it should show in your eyes. It should be unmistakable.”
To Blame or Not To Blame
“They blame those who remain silent, they blame those who speak much, they blame those who speak in moderation. There is none in the world who is not blamed.”
– Buddha
This Buddha quote reminds me of an Aristotle quote:
“There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.”
We live in a hyper critical world of insecure projections.
^This makes it hard for any of us to live.
Because when we go against the grain – when we don’t conform to how they say we should live – we get criticized & blamed.
The crabs in the bucket try to pull us back down into the bucket with them – for whatever reason – mostly fear.
But we weren’t meant to live in that bucket.
We we meant to live free.
We Are meant to live free.
So let’s do a little less blaming, and a little more living.
Live With Purpose
“Live with purpose. Don’t let people or things around you get you down.”
– Albert Einstein
This world is filled with people blindly bouncing off each other – reacting to stimuli.
Then there are people who break out from reacting & are able to live with purpose.
We are here to live with purpose.
Less reacting – More responding.
With purpose.
Integration
The definition of integration, from Oxford dictionary is “the action or process of integrating.” & Integrate is defined as “combine (one thing) with another so that they become whole.”
The process of integration can take time, but it’s always happening.
Within these CoachT posts I bring to you what inspires me – ideas, people, places, experiences, and dreams.
One experience that highly influenced my life was my first experience with psilocybin mushrooms. You can read about my first psilocybin trip here.
I’ve also been involved as an activist towards legalizing plant medicines, because I know their healing qualities firsthand.
I’ve created a pen name, Psil Silva, where I share my experiences & add my two cents into life, in regards to the area of natural plant medicines like psilocybin mushrooms.
My name, your name, these aren’t as important as what is beyond our names – the peace beyond understanding.
& this is why it’s hard for many to understand – because it’s literally beyond understanding.
It’s an experience.
Anyway, I hope to integrate my websites, books, & ideas, to share the best of what I learn, with you.
It may be useful & it may not, so, as Bruce Lee says “absorb what is useful, reject what is useless, add what is essentially your own.”
It’s all related, all connected, and one of the short books I wrote that you may like best is titled The 7 Psychedelic Meditations.
Check it out here on Amazon & please leave a review.
Let me know what you think! 🙂
Do It Today
“Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small. A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.”
– Lao Tzu
What dream do you have?
Are you taking actions towards your dream?
What is one thing you can do today to begin turning dreams into reality?
It won’t happen overnight, but it won’t happen until you first have the dream.
To Break or Not To Break?
“The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places.”
—Ernest Hemingway
Personally, I’m just thinking about whether to break from writing every day to writing once a week – or something like that.
But in relation to the Hemingway quote, yes, the world breaks us all.
“Life is suffering” said Buddha.
& it’s true. Life hurts. We all go through it. Your pain is valid.
The question is, where will you go from here?
What did you learn from your pain?
What are you still learning from it?
We are never too old to learn something new.
An old dog can learn new tricks.
It’s a matter of patience, persistence, and humility, to name a few, but the list goes on.
Reclaim Your Mind
“Reclaim your mind and get it out of the hands of the cultural engineers who want to turn you into a half-baked moron consuming all this trash that’s being manufactured out of the bones of a dying world.”
― Terence McKenna
Culture wants you to conform.
It wants you to blindly obey.
But you were born to be free.
You were born with a mind to think for yourself.
This is extremely difficult in societies that aggressively attack non-conformists.
“For nonconformity the world whips you with its displeasure.”
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
This choice is yours.
And yes, if you choose to think for yourself you will lose friends. Some family members may disown you. But what you will find in this process is the truth.
You will find genuine support from the few who are living their truths as well.
It is a risk, but it is a risk worth taking, and a risk that might possibly save the world.
Rest & Be Kind
“Rest and be kind, you don’t have to prove anything.”
—Jack Kerouac
Those words – rest & be kind, are some of the most important words in the human language.
Rest & be kind.
I’ll leave it there.
Adversity is a Gift
“Let me embrace thee, sour adversity, for wise men say it is the wisest course.”
—William Shakespeare
You lost the election.
You bet on the wrong stock.
You missed the game winning field goal.
You fell down face first into a pile of mud.
And it hurt.
It still does sometimes.
But you weren’t meant to remain in pain.
The pain – the adversity, is an opportunity to grow, to learn, to prosper, but in the moments it happens it’s almost impossible to appreciate.
Adversity doesn’t feel good, but it carries within it a gift.
The gift of experience.
“Experience is the teacher of all things.”
—Julius Caesar
The gift may be hidden, but it’s there, waiting for you to find it, open it, & move forward – stronger, wiser, and ready for the next opportunity.