“The Chinese Bamboo Tree” Parable By Les Brown

In the far East they have something called The Chinese Bamboo Tree.

The Chinese Bamboo Tree takes five years to grow.

They have to water and fertilize the ground where it is every day,
and it doesn’t break through the ground until the fifth year.

But once it breaks through the ground,
within 5 weeks it grows 90 feet tall.

Now the question is does it grow 90 feet tall in 5 weeks or 5 years?

The answer is obvious.
It grows 90 feet tall in five years.

Because at any time if had that person stopped watering, and nurturing, and fertilizing that tree, that bamboo tree would have died in the ground.

And I can see people coming out talking to a guy out there watering and fertilizing the ground that’s not showing anything,

“Hey, whatcha doing? You’ve been out here a long time, man. And the conversation in the neighborhood is…You growin a Chinese Bamboo Tree, is that right??”

“Yea that’s right”

“Well even Ray Charles and Stevie Wonder can see ain’t nothing showin.”

You know that’s how people are gonna do you:

“So how long have you been working on this? How long have you been working on your dream? And you have nothing to show? This is all you got to show???”

People gonna do that to you.

And some people ladies and gentleman, they stop.

Because they don’t see instant results.

It doesn’t happen quickly.

They stop, oh no, no, no, no…

You’ve got to keep on watering your dreams 

And when it begins to happen, they stop laughing.

They say “Look, whoa, look here, it’s, look up, hey man you know I knew you could do it, look, you got a job here?”

See during those hard times you didn’t know how you’re gonna make payroll, during those times when you failed and things didn’t work out, they were nowhere to be found. 

You know what I discovered, when you’re working at your dream, somebody said “the harder the battle, the sweeter the victory.”

Oh it’s sweet to ya. It’s good to ya, why?

See when it’s hard and there’s a struggle, see what you become in the process is more important than the dream.

That’s far more important.

The kind of person you become, the character that you build, the courage that you develop, the faith that you’re manifesting.

Oh it’s something that you get up in the morning, you look yourself in the mirror, you’re a different kind of person, you walk with a different kind of spirit.

People know that you know what life is. That you have embraced life.
You knew it was hard, but you did it hard.

17 Motivational Quotes to Keep You Going

1) Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right.’ Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along.
—George Herbert



2) When obstacles arise, you change your direction to reach your goal; you do not change your decision to get there.
—Zig Ziglar



3) Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear.
—Ambrose Redmoon



4) Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny. 
—C.S. Lewis


5) Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough. 
—Og Mandino


6) Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.
—Dale Carnegie


7) When something is important enough, you do it even if the odds are not in your favor.
— Elon Musk


8) The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones. 
—Confucius


9) The people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do.
—Rob Siltanen


10) Imagine your life is perfect in every respect; What would it look like?
—Brian Tracy


11) Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.
—Steve Jobs


12) We generate fears while we sit. We overcome them by action.
— Henry Link


13) Energy and persistence conquer all things.
—Benjamin Franklin


14) For every reason it’s not possible, there are hundreds of people who have faced the same circumstances and succeeded.
—Jack Canfield


15) Infuse your life with action. Don’t wait for it to happen. Make it happen. Make your own future. Make your own hope. Make your own love. And whatever your beliefs, honor your creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what you can to make grace happen… yourself, right now, right down here on Earth.
—Bradley Whitford


16) Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant.
— Robert Louis Stevenson


17) A winner is a dreamer who never gives up.
—Nelson Mandela

17 Quotes That Will Inspire You to Live Your Dream

1) If you can’t figure out your purpose, figure out your passion. For your passion will lead you right into your purpose.
Bishop T.D. Jakes

2) Almost everything–all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure–these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.
— Steve Jobs

3) I’ve been absolutely terrified every moment of my life and I’ve never let it keep me from doing a single thing that I wanted to do.
— Georgia O’Keefe

4) If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place.
— Nora Roberts

5) A year from now you may wish you had started today. 
Karen Lamb

6) How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.
— Anne Frank

7) Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
— Mark Twain

8) You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.
— C.S. Lewis

9) Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls.
— Joseph Campbell

10) When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.
— Helen Keller

11) Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.
—Arthur Ashe

12) There are those who work all day. Those who dream all day. And those who spend an hour dreaming before setting to work to fulfill those dreams. Go into the third category because there’s virtually no competition.
— Steven J. Ross

13) The Man Who Has Confidence In Himself Gains The Confidence Of Others.
— Hasidic Proverb

14) The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity.
— Amelia Earhart

15) Follow your own passion—not your parents’, not your teachers’—yours. 
Robert Ballard

16) All progress takes place outside of your comfort zone.
Michael Bobak

17) The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. 
Lao Tzu

Define Success For Yourself and 49 Quotes

What does success mean to you?

Is it a lot of money? Cars? Traveling? Being with family? Doing what you love? 

Society has had the notion that success means having a lot of money, and maybe that’s success for some people, but not for everyone. 

Part of success to me means doing work I love doing, helping others along the way and surrounding myself with family and good friends. 

Success is only a word that has a different meaning to everyone. 

There isn’t “One” way of achieving success, there are multiple.

So one of the most important questions you can ask yourself is, “What does success mean to me?”

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49 Quotes on Success

1) “So first we gotta define success for ourselves then we have to put in the work to maintain it, take that daily tally. Tend our garden. Keep the things that are important to us in good shape.”
Matthew McConaughey

2) ”Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”
Winston Churchill

3) “The greatness of a man is not how much wealth he acquires, but in his ability to affect those around him around him positively.”
Bob Marley

4) “There are many aspects to success; material wealth is only one component. …But success also includes good health, energy and enthusiasm for life, fulfilling relationships, creative freedom, emotional and psychological stability, a sense of well-being, and peace of mind.” 
Deepak Chopra

5) “It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation.”
Herman Melville

6) “Success is really nothing more than the progressive realization of a worthy ideal. This means that any person who knows what they are doing and where they are going is a success. Any person with a goal towards which they are working is a successful person.” 
Earl Nightingale

7) “Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.”
 Albert Schweitzer

8) “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”
Thomas Edison

9) “You know you are on the road to success if you would do your job, and not be paid for it.”
Oprah Winfrey

10) “I’m a success today because I had a friend who believed in me and I didn’t have the heart to let him down.” 
Abraham Lincoln

11)  “Success is not how high you have climbed, but how you make a positive difference to the world.” 
Roy T. Bennett

12) “All you need in this life is ignorance and confidence; then success is sure.” 
Mark Twain

13) “It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.” 
Theodore Roosevelt

14) “A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and gets to bed at night, and in between he does what he wants to do.” 
Bob Dylan

15) “Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.” 
Dalai Lama XIV

16) “The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack in will.” 
Vince Lombardi

17) “Our greatest fear should not be of failure but of succeeding at things in life that don’t really matter.” 
Francis Chan

18) “Winners are not afraid of losing. But losers are. Failure is part of the process of success. People who avoid failure also avoid success.” 
Robert T. Kiyosaki

19) “The foundation stones for a balanced success are honesty, character, integrity, faith, love and loyalty.”
Zig Ziglar

20) “I find the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead, help them reveal the greatest version of themselves.” 
Steve Maraboli

21) “Success does not consist in never making mistakes but in never making the same one a second time.” 
George Bernard Shaw

22) “The only time you fail is when you fall down and stay down.”
Stephen Richards

23) “Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success.” 
Joyce Brothers

24) “And will you succeed? Yes indeed, yes indeed! Ninety-eight and three-quarters percent guaranteed!” 
Dr. Suess

25) “I’ve had great success being a total idiot. ” 
Jerry Lewis

26) “Eighty percent of success is showing up.” 
Woody Allen

27) “I have learned that success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome while trying to succeed.” 
Booker T. Washington

28) “People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.” 
Dale Carnegie

29) “Possessions, outward success, publicity, luxury – to me these have always been contemptible. I believe that a simple and unassuming manner of life is best for everyone, best for both the body and the mind.” 
Albert Einstein

30) “To be independent of public opinion is the first formal condition of achieving anything great.” 
Hegel

31) “Success means we go to sleep at night knowing that our talents and abilities were used in a way that served others.” 
Marianne Williamson

32) “The way of success is the way of continuous pursuit of knowledge.” 
Napoleon Hill

33) “Action is the foundational key to all success.”
Pablo Picasso 

34) “One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation.”
Arthur Ashe 

35) “I attribute my success to this—I never gave or took any excuse.”
Florence Nightingale

36) “I know the price of success: dedication, hard work and an unremitting devotion to the things you want to see happen.”
Frank Lloyd Wright 

37) “Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.”
Henry Ford

38) “Your true success in life begins only when you make the commitment to become excellent at what you do.”
Brian Tracy

39) “I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life—and that is why I succeed.”
Michael Jordan

40) “Success comes from knowing that you did your best to become the best that you are capable of becoming.”
John Wooden

41) “Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning.”
Benjamin Franklin

42) “What is success? I think it is a mixture of having a flair for the thing that you are doing; knowing that it is not enough, that you have got to have hard work and a certain sense of purpose.”
Margaret Thatcher

43) “For success, attitude is equally as important as ability.”
Walter Scott

44) “Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It’s quite simple, really: Double your rate of failure. You are thinking of failure as the enemy of success. But it isn’t at all. You can be discouraged by failure or you can learn from it, so go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because remember that’s where you will find success.”
Thomas J. Watson

45) “The real test is not whether you avoid this failure, because you won’t. It’s whether you let it harden or shame you into inaction, or whether you learn from it; whether you choose to persevere.”
Barack Obama

46) “The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus.”
Bruce Lee

47) “Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.”
Helen Keller

48) “If you really look closely, most overnight successes took a long time.”
Steve Jobs

49) “Don’t be distracted by criticism. Remember–the only taste of success some people get is to take a bite out of you.”
Zig Ziglar

It’s okay to not know

I was in my senior year of high school when I was asked for the millionth time by another “adult:” “What are you going to major in?”

I had no idea. Later that evening I was talking to my dad & I asked him what he thought I should major in. I’m sure he gave me some ideas but what I vividly remember from that conversation is him telling me that it’s also okay if I don’t know right now.

“It’s okay to not know.”

That answer seemed somewhat surprising after numerous teachers & “adults” spoke of how important it was to know what you were going to major in.

This advice gave me a huge sense of relief and I still use it today in a number of situations.

I went into college with no major, undeclared, for my first 2 years, then I actually had to decide.

I chose based off of what my interests were, not off of what would make me the most money, and I am happy with my choices. I have a degree in Sport Management, a minor in Business, and a Masters of Education degree.

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I wasn’t worried about the future when I entered college undeclared.

“Know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum.”
Mary Schmich

My focus was on the day at hand. My focus was to live life to the fullest while completing everything needed to graduate.

I knew that it was okay to not try to know exactly how my future would pan out, but to trust it would turn out well, and I took actions based on that faith, like this quote from Alan Watts:

 “To have faith is to trust yourself to the water. When you swim you don’t grab hold of the water, because if you do you will sink and drown. Instead you relax, and float.” 

 

But it can be easy to get caught up in worrying about the countless tasks you need to complete. I do that sometimes, but when I know I’m worrying I remind myself to focus on what I can do to return to peace of mind. 

Worry can be a motivator to get things done, but it can be a cage as well. Uncertainty lives with all of us, every single day. It’s always there, like gravity. How will you deal with it?

“The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the amount of uncertainty that you can comfortably live with.”
Tony Robbins

So it’s completely okay to not know.

“The only thing I know is that I know nothing.”
Socrates

But what happens when you really want to know?

You want to know the answer.
You want to know what to do.
You want to know what will happen.

You want certainty in uncertain things and there are ways to create some certainty during uncertain times.

 

There are ways to create some certainty during uncertain times.

One way is to dwell in the idea that life is working out in everyone’s best interest, even during down times. And if you’re constantly hating your job then that could be life telling you to quit & find work that you enjoy.

—The second way is to focus on making progress.
If you really want to “grab life by the horns” and take control of your life, progress is key. You might feel stuck at a job you hate or lost in what you think you should do.

 

How can you make progress?

 

—Begin by asking yourself “what does my ideal life look like?”

Think about ideals in a variety of aspects in your life: Financial, relationships, career, hobbies, environment, etc.

This is the time to let go of any limiting beliefs you have and raise your standards. 

Even if you don’t believe you can have your ideal life just pretend for a moment and think about what it would look like.

—Know your “why.”

Why do you want your ideal life? Think about all your reasons. It could be for your happiness, to provide for your family, to start a charity, to buy a new car, etc.

—Take Action

Begin taking action toward your ideal life. Your reasons for making it happen will grow stronger from here.

 

Uncertainty surrounds us every day.

How will you make the most of it?

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Quotes!

“The root of suffering is resisting the certainty that no matter what the circumstances, uncertainty is all we truly have.”
 Pema Chödrön

“We absolutely must leave room for doubt or there is no progress and there is no learning. There is no learning without having to pose a question. And a question requires doubt. People search for certainty. But there is no certainty. People are terrified — how can you live and not know? It is not odd at all. You only think you know, as a matter of fact. And most of your actions are based on incomplete knowledge and you really don’t know what it is all about, or what the purpose of the world is, or know a great deal of other things. It is possible to live and not know.”
Richard Feynman

“There are many things of which we are completely unaware—in fact, there are things of which we are so unaware, we don’t even know we are unaware of them.”
Donald Rumsfeld

“Suspecting and knowing are not the same.”
Rick Riordan

“People don’t know that they don’t know. Remember that before you hold it against them.”
Akiroq Brost

“I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next.”
Gilda Radner

“A fool thinks himself to be wise, but a wise man knows himself to be a fool.”
William Shakespeare

“Everything you’ve learned in school as “obvious” becomes less and less obvious as you begin to study the universe. For example, there are no solids in the universe. There’s not even a suggestion of a solid. There are no absolute continuums. There are no surfaces. There are no straight lines.”
Richard Buckminster Fuller

“Beyond all sciences, philosophies, theologies, and histories, a child’s relentless inquiry is truly all it takes to remind us that we don’t know as much as we think we know.”
Criss Jami

The Question IS The Answer

Will this article make you smarter?

Questions. Questions. Questions.

Everyone is looking for answers. No one is looking for questions.

But the answer is within the question.

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Research has been done by scientists on the power questions have on human brains.

Questions trigger a reflex in humans know as “instinctive elaboration,” which means when someone asks you a question, the question takes over the brain’s thought process. 

Behavioral scientists Morwitz, Johnson, and Schmittlein did a study on this topic and found that asking people questions about their futures significantly influenced their decisions. This is known as the “mere measurement effect.” The study was done in 1993 with over 40,000 participants by asking them if they were going to purchase a new car within six months. This question increased their purchase rates by 35%.

Similar surveys have been done on the topics of voting, donating blood, exercise frequency, and more. 

Each survey found that all these behaviors can be increased by asking about them!

Your mind is powerful!

Research has found that the more the brain thinks about a certain behavior, the more likely it is that you will do it.

Thinking about something can change your behavior and sensations.

Imagine sipping some warm hot chocolate. 

Can you taste it? 

Can you notice your mind shifted its focus from where it was to the hot chocolate?

Your mind is powerful…

 

So if you never ask a question, you will never get an answer.

If you ask a negative question like, “why do bad things always happen to me?” You will get an answer, and it will reinforce bad things happening to you.

If you ask a positive question like, “how can I live my best life?” You will get an answer and it will reinforce ideas of how you can live your best life.

Questions are powerful tools you can use to live more of the life you want to live.

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Here are some others who strongly agree:

“Problems that remain persistently insoluble should always be suspected as questions asked in the wrong way.”
Alan Watts

“Quality questions create a quality life. Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.”
Tony Robbins

“Judge a man by his questions rather than by his answers.”
Voltaire

“It is not the answer that enlightens, but the question.”
Eugene Ionesco

“Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.”
Rainer Maria Rilke

“One of the many qualities that separate self-made billionaires from the rest of us is their ability to ask the right questions.”
Justine Musk

“Always the beautiful answer who asks a more beautiful question.”
E. E. Cummings

“If you do not know how to ask the right question, you discover nothing.”
W. Edwards Deming

“Life is an unanswered question, but let’s still believe in the dignity and importance of the question.”
Tennessee Williams

“I think that probably the most important thing about our education was that it taught us to question even those things we thought we knew.”
Thabo Mbeki

He must be very ignorant for he answers every question he is asked.”
Voltaire

“A wise man’s question contains half the answer.”
Solomon Ibn Gabirol

A prudent question is one-half of wisdom.”
Francis Bacon

 

7 powerful questions Tony Robbins asks to spark positive emotions are:

—What am I happy about in my life now?

—What am I excited about in my life now?

—What am I proud about in my life now?

—What am I grateful about in my life now?

—What am I enjoying in life right now?

—What am I committed to in my life right now?

—Who do I love? Who loves me?

 

What are 3 other questions you can think of that by asking yourself them will help you achieve a goal?

 

 

 

Letter from a dying 27 year old

27 year old Holly Butcher wrote this the day before she died…

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“It’s a strange thing to realise and accept your mortality at 26 years young. It’s just one of those things you ignore. The days tick by and you just expect they will keep on coming; Until the unexpected happens. I always imagined myself growing old, wrinkled and grey- most likely caused by the beautiful family (lots of kiddies) I planned on building with the love of my life. I want that so bad it hurts.

That’s the thing about life; It is fragile, precious and unpredictable and each day is a gift, not a given right.

I’m 27 now. I don’t want to go. I love my life. I am happy.. I owe that to my loved ones. But the control is out of my hands.

I haven’t started this ‘note before I die’ so that death is feared – I like the fact that we are mostly ignorant to it’s inevitability.. Except when I want to talk about it and it is treated like a ‘taboo’ topic that will never happen to any of us.. That’s been a bit tough.

I just want people to stop worrying so much about the small, meaningless stresses in life and try to remember that we all have the same fate after it all so do what you can to make your time feel worthy and great, minus the bullshit.

I have dropped lots of my thoughts below as I have had a lot of time to ponder life these last few months. Of course it’s the middle of the night when these random things pop in my head most!

Those times you are whining about ridiculous things (something I have noticed so much these past few months), just think about someone who is really facing a problem. Be grateful for your minor issue and get over it. It’s okay to acknowledge that something is annoying but try not to carry on about it and negatively effect other people’s days.

Once you do that, get out there and take a freaking big breath of that fresh Aussie air deep in your lungs, look at how blue the sky is and how green the trees are; It is so beautiful. Think how lucky you are to be able to do just that – breathe.

You might have got caught in bad traffic today, or had a bad sleep because your beautiful babies kept you awake, or your hairdresser cut your hair too short. Your new fake nails might have got a chip, your boobs are too small, or you have cellulite on your arse and your belly is wobbling.

Let all that shit go.. 

I swear you will not be thinking of those things when it is your turn to go. 

It is all SO insignificant when you look at life as a whole. 

I’m watching my body waste away right before my eyes with nothing I can do about it and all I wish for now is that I could have just one more Birthday or Christmas with my family, or just one more day with my partner and dog. Just one more.

I hear people complaining about how terrible work is or about how hard it is to exercise – Be grateful you are physically able to. Work and exercise may seem like such trivial things … until your body doesn’t allow you to do either of them.

I tried to live a healthy life, in fact, that was probably my major passion. Appreciate your good health and functioning body– even if it isn’t your ideal size. Look after it and embrace how amazing it is. Move it and nourish it with fresh food. Don’t obsess over it.

Remember there are more aspects to good health than the physical body.. work just as hard on finding your mental, emotional and spiritual happiness too. 

That way you might realise just how insignificant and unimportant having this stupidly portrayed perfect social media body really is.. While on this topic, delete any account that pops up on your news feeds that gives you any sense of feeling shit about yourself. Friend or not.. Be ruthless for your own well-being.

Be grateful for each day you don’t have pain and even the days where you are unwell with man flu, a sore back or a sprained ankle, accept it is shit but be thankful it isn’t life threatening and will go away.

Whine less, people! .. And help each other more.

Give, give, give. 

It is true that you gain more happiness doing things for others than doing them for yourself. 

I wish I did this more. Since I have been sick, I have met the most incredibly giving and kind people and been the receiver of the most thoughtful and loving words and support from my family, friends and strangers; More than I could I ever give in return. I will never forget this and will be forever grateful to all of these people.

It is a weird thing having money to spend at the end.. when you’re dying. It’s not a time you go out and buy material things that you usually would, like a new dress. 

It makes you think how silly it is that we think it is worth spending so much money on new clothes and ‘things’ in our lives.

Buy your friend something kind instead of another dress, beauty product or jewellery for that next wedding. 1. No-one cares if you wear the same thing twice 2. It feels good. Take them out for a meal, or better yet, cook them a meal. Shout their coffee. Give/ buy them a plant, a massage or a candle and tell them you love them when you give it to them.

Value other people’s time. 

Don’t keep them waiting because you are shit at being on time. 

Get ready earlier if you are one of those people and appreciate that your friends want to share their time with you, not sit by themselves, waiting on a mate. You will gain respect too! Amen sister.

This year, our family agreed to do no presents and despite the tree looking rather sad and empty (I nearly cracked Christmas Eve!), it was so nice because people didn’t have the pressure of shopping and the effort went into writing a nice card for each other. Plus imagine my family trying to buy me a present knowing they would probably end up with it themselves.. strange! It might seem lame but those cards mean more to me than any impulse purchase could. Mind you, it was also easier to do in our house because we had no little kiddies there. 

Anyway, moral of the story- presents are not needed for a meaningful Christmas. Moving on.

Use your money on experiences.. Or at least don’t miss out on experiences because you spent all your money on material shit.

Put in the effort to do that day trip to the beach you keep putting off. Dip your feet in the water and dig your toes in the sand. Wet your face with salt water.

Get amongst nature.

Try just enjoying and being in moments rather than capturing them through the screen of your phone. Life isn’t meant to be lived through a screen nor is it about getting the perfect photo.. enjoy the bloody moment, people! Stop trying to capture it for everyone else.

Random rhetorical question. Are those several hours you spend doing your hair and make up each day or to go out for one night really worth it? I’ve never understood this about females 🤔.

Get up early sometimes and listen to the birds while you watch the beautiful colours the sun makes as it rises.

Listen to music.. really listen. Music is therapy. Old is best.

Cuddle your dog. Far out, I will miss that.

Talk to your friends. Put down your phone. Are they doing okay?

Travel if it’s your desire, don’t if it’s not.

Work to live, don’t live to work.

Seriously, do what makes your heart feel happy.

Eat the cake. Zero guilt.

Say no to things you really don’t want to do.

Don’t feel pressured to do what other people might think is a fulfilling life.. you might want a mediocre life and that is so okay.

Tell your loved ones you love them every time you get the chance and love them with everything you have.

Also, remember if something is making you miserable, you do have the power to change it – in work or love or whatever it may be. Have the guts to change. You don’t know how much time you’ve got on this earth so don’t waste it being miserable. I know that is said all the time but it couldn’t be more true.

Anyway, that’s just this one young gals life advice. Take it or leave it, I don’t mind!

Oh and one last thing, if you can, do a good deed for humanity (and myself) and start regularly donating blood. It will make you feel good with the added bonus of saving lives. I feel like it is something that is so overlooked considering every donation can save 3 lives! That is a massive impact each person can have and the process really is so simple.

Blood donation (more bags than I could keep up with counting) helped keep me alive for an extra year – a year I will be forever grateful that I got to spend it here on Earth with my family, friends and dog. A year I had some of the greatest times of my life.

..’Til we meet again.

Hol

Xoxo”

 

 

I hope this message inspired you as much as it did for me.

 

Read more here if you are interested in 3 ways to live a life you won’t regret in 30 years!

 

 

 

The Ultimate Parable on How to Escape the 9-5 and Do What You Love

This story is an ideal representation of my blog’s theme: You CAN live the life you want.

It’s possible to discover your passion and get paid to do it! As you will see in this story.

You don’t need to immediately give up your current path but you also don’t need to spend 40 hours each week for the next 30-40 years doing work you don’t enjoy.

I first heard this story from Tim Ferriss, author of The 4-Hour Workweek.

 

Enjoy…

 

…Rio de Janeiro, Brazil

Twenty feet and closing.

“Run! Ruuuuuuuuuun!” Hans didn’t speak Portuguese, but the meaning was clear enough—haul ass. His sneakers gripped firmly on the jagged rock, and he drove his chest forward toward 3,000 feet of nothing.

He held his breath on the final step, and the panic drove him to near unconsciousness. coacht.blog beautiful beach

His vision blurred at the edges, closing to a single pinpoint of light, and then … he floated. The all-consuming celestial blue of the horizon hit his visual field an instant after he realized that the thermal updraft had caught him and the wings of the paraglider. Fear was behind him on the mountaintop, and thousands of feet above the resplendent green rain forest and pristine white beaches of Copacabana, Hans Keeling had seen the light.

That was Sunday.
On Monday, Hans returned to his law office in Century City, Los Angeles’s posh corporate haven, and promptly handed in his three-week notice. 

For nearly five years, he had faced his alarm clock with the same dread: I have to do this for another 40–45 years? 

He had once slept under his desk at the office after a punishing half-done project, only to wake up and continue on it the next morning. 

That same morning, he had made himself a promise: two more times and I’m out of here. Strike number three came the day before he left for his Brazilian vacation.

We all make these promises to ourselves, and Hans had done it before as well, but things were now somehow different. He was different. 

He had realized something while arcing in slow circles toward the earth—risks weren’t that scary once you took them. 

His colleagues told him what he expected to hear: He was throwing it all away. He was an attorney on his way to the top—what the hell did he want?

 

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Hans didn’t know exactly what he wanted, but he had tasted it. 

On the other hand, he did know what bored him to tears, and he was done with it. No more passing days as the living dead, no more dinners where his colleagues compared cars, riding on the sugar high of a new BMW purchase until someone bought a more expensive Mercedes. It was over.

Immediately, a strange shift began—Hans felt, for the first time in a long time, at peace with himself and what he was doing. He had always been terrified of plane turbulence, as if he might die with the best inside of him, but now he could fly through a violent storm sleeping like a baby. Strange indeed.

More than a year later, he was still getting unsolicited job offers from law firms, but by then had started Nexus Surf, a premier surf-adventure company based in the tropical paradise of Florianopolis, Brazil. He had met his dream girl, a Carioca with caramel-colored skin named Tatiana, and spent most of his time relaxing under palm trees or treating clients to the best times of their lives.

Is this what he had been so afraid of?

These days, he often sees his former self in the underjoyed and overworked professionals he takes out on the waves. Waiting for the swell, the true emotions come out: “God, I wish I could do what you do.” His reply is always the same: “You can.”

The setting sun reflects off the surface of the water, providing a Zen-like setting for a message he knows is true: It’s not giving up to put your current path on indefinite pause. He could pick up his law career exactly where he left off if he wanted to, but that is the furthest thing from his mind.

As they paddle back to shore after an awesome session, his clients get ahold of themselves and regain their composure. They set foot on shore, and reality sinks its fangs in: “I would, but I can’t really throw it all away.”

He has to laugh.

 

The End

 

I’m rooting for you.

 

Here are 3 ways to live a life you won’t regret in 30 years!

I include the top 5 things people regret most on their death beds in this article above, based on research!

Exclusive Justin Allen Interview

If you are an athlete striving for the next level or someone who generally wants inspiration, Justin Allen offers timeless ideas for you.

 

“I’d like to share with those struggling that they ain’t gon’ give it to you. I’d like to let others know from experience that no matter how much talent you have it doesn’t mean it’s going to come easy. You gon’ have to work for it and prove yourself over and over to keep it.”


I had the pleasure of interviewing Justin Allen, a former New Mexico State wide receiver, brother of the New England Patriots Dwayne Allen, & recently featured on Netflix’s Last Chance U.

 

 

Allen is an inspirational mover in the way he propels people forward.

Authentic. Inspired. Mindful.

3 of the many words that describe Allen & his unshakeable work ethic.

Allen is currently working with the star of Netflix’s Last Chance U, Ronald Ollie, to get him in the best shape of his life in all aspects.

In the interview below you will see how these two met, gain more insight into who Ollie is, and get a glimpse into the mind of a truly inspired being, Justin Allen.

1) As a person who has been on both sides of the football field, what is your favorite aspect of the sport and why?

“My most favorite aspect of the sport is being able to impact lives in a positive matter through the process.”

2) What kept you inspired to continue working in athletics after getting injured at New Mexico State? What was the transition like going from being an athlete to training athletes? 

“I went into Depression after my last injury and training became my peace. The transition was smooth because they are similar I just don’t play in the games on Saturday or Sunday.” 

3) In what ways has being a trainer taught you about football that you weren’t as aware of when playing? 

“It honestly proved what I thought as a player to be true. Some coaches look for players who test out well but overlook the 4.6 guys that have 4.4 football speed. There is a difference.”

4) Is there one specific characteristic you have found that distinguishes the greatest athletes from the “good” athletes?

“Their Mindset.”

5) Speaking of successful people, do you have a role model?…Who?

“My older brother Dwayne Allen.”

And what are some characteristics they have that you work on cultivating?

“Staying true to who I am and not living outside of my means. He harps on doing the right thing at all times and genuinely helping others.”

What is your definition of success?

“Bringing out the best in those around you.”

6) What have you found many athletes struggling with?

“Most athletes struggle with the mental aspects of the game.”

How do you go about turning weaknesses into strengths?

“We build them up mentally to prepare for the worst, so when it comes, they’ve been there.”

7) What is your favorite quote and why?

“’WeALLEN’ Being ALL-EN is a mentality. It’s a journey, a constant quest that we are all on. When you are ALL-EN, it means you are prepared and equipped to be the best version of yourself. In order to be ALL-EN, you must be passionate, relentless, fearless, and resilient.”

8) In what ways has your brother Dwayne Allen, (Tight End for the Patriots), influenced your life?

“He taught me how to stand on my own two feet. He doesn’t make things easy for me.”

9) How did you become acquainted with Ollie?

“He came to get a haircut at my facility from Fade Game and others began to take pictures of him and I asked who he was because I had never saw the show that he starred on (Last Chance U) I later DM him on twitter asking what he was doing in Houston instead of being in school.” 

10) What is something you learned about Ollie that others should know?

“He’s well rounded. As we all know he’s a talented football player but he’s just as skilled as a music artist and actor.”

11) What do you love about training Ollie and others?

“I love the energy that Ollie gives off and his willingness to get better. He realized the opportunity he has in front of him.”

12) What would you say is your greatest accomplishment? What about that experience brings you joy?

“I would have to say my greatest accomplishment was creating a brand to positively change others lifestyle…helping others reach their full potential. It’s an unexplainable feeling, I want everyone to be able to experience. Nothing brings more peace or happiness.”

13) If you could give one piece of advice to a struggling athlete or anyone who wants to make progress, what would it be?


“Eliminate all distractions and things that don’t help them progress and grow.”

14) Is there anything you’re looking forward to in the upcoming years? Anything you look forward to most in life?

“I look forward to changing the culture through sports training and mentoring. I believe it’s the best unspoken discipline.”

15) Is there anything else you would like others to know about you? Is there anything else you would like to share?

“I’d like to share with those struggling that they ain’t gon’ give it to you. I’d like to let others know from experience that no matter how much talent you have it doesn’t mean it’s going to come easy. You gon’ have to work for it and prove yourself over and over to keep it.”

As Allen continues to inspire others he is also working on getting physically fit himself. No matter where he ends up he will undoubtedly help illuminate those around him.

I’ll leave you with a quote from Ronald Ollie during the most recent episode of Last Chance U

It’s just love you know. Everything is love.

 

 

Find Justin Allen on twitter here.

More on his elite worldwide training program, ALL-EN Sports, here.

Allen is also on the selection committee of the nation’s High School All-America Game.

Ronald Ollie Interview.

 

45 Mind Opening & Inspiring Joe Rogan Quotes

1) “Pretend that your life was a movie and it started now, what would the hero do? What would the person that you respect do? What would the person that you admire, and inspires you do? Do that. Live your life like you’re the hero in your own movie.”

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2) “We define ourselves far too often by our past failures. That’s not you. You are this person right now. You’re the person who has learned from those failures. Build confidence and momentum with each good decision you make from here on out and choose to be inspired.”

3) “If you ever start taking things too seriously, just remember that we are talking monkeys on an organic spaceship flying through the universe.”

4) “Not knowing the truth doesn’t make you ignorant. Not wanting to know the truth is what makes you ignorant.”

5) “It’s very important to help people figure out how to manage life, to help people figure out how to think, help inspire them, help show them what can be gained from setting goals and achieving them and that excellent feeling – and that becomes contagious.”

6) “Treat everyone as if they were you. If we really are one, then I am you and you are me.”

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7) “The time you spend hating on someone robs you of your own time.  You are literally hating on yourself and you don’t even realize it.”

8) “Haters are all failures. It’s 100% across the board.  No one who is truly brilliant at anything is a hater.”

9) “My act is so completely and totally uncensored that the only way I could really pull it off is if I treat the audience like they’re my best friends.”

10) “Your attitude has a giant effect not just on your life, but on other peoples lives around you.”

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11) “There’s a direct correlation between positive energy and positive results in the physical form.”

12) “Life is strange. You keep moving and keep moving. Before you know it, you look back and think, ‘What was that?’”

13) “In all my travelings, all my life adventures; I have to say I still don’t know what life is, absolutely no clue, and it is a subject that is constantly on my mind. One thing I do know for a fact is that the nicer we are to our fellow human beings, the nicer the universe is to us.”

14)“There really are no grown-ups, just kids that got old and had kids of their own.”

15) “That’s my only goal. Surround myself with funny people, and make sure everyone has a good time and works hard.”

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16) “We got sidetracked and diverted into these boxes, that they call ‘companies’ and ‘corporations.’ And we got stuck in these containers that they call ‘cubicles’ or ‘offices.’ So our time, instead of it being invested in making pottery or fixing cars or doing something where you have a passion or some sort of connection to. Instead of that, you’ve sold your life to sit in a box and work for a machine; an uncaring machine that demands productivity. It doesn’t understand you. It doesn’t want to understand you. No natural behavior. Everyone is wearing clothes they don’t want to wear. Everybody is showing up and doing something they don’t want to do. They have no connection to it. That’s the problem with our society. And then what’s the reward? Go home and get a big TV.”

^^You can hear this quote & more in this short youtube video.

 

17) “Get better at whatever you’re doing. So what if you suck at it now. Everybody sucks at everything when they start. But if you love it, and don’t lie to yourself, then get better at it.”

18) “No matter how civilized we are and how much society has curbed violent behavior. Human beings still have the same genes they had 10,000 years ago. Our bodies are designed to have a certain amount of physical stress and violence in them. We’re designed to run from jaguars and fight to defend our territory.”

19) “Here’s the craziest thing about life, this is the thing that nobody really considers; you know as much about what life is all about as anybody who’s ever lived, ever. That’s the craziest thing about us. We’re all just kinda wandering through this going “‘You know what you’re doing?’ ‘Yes.’ ‘Oh, I do too. I know what I’m doing.’ ‘Okay. Good, then.’” But really no one has a clue.”

20) “Reality really is a theatre. There’s no other way to describe it.  It’s all so nonsensical, ridiculous and chaotic.”

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21) “The quicker we all realize that we’ve been taught how to live life by the people that were operating on the momentum of an ignorant past the quicker we can move to a global ethic of community that doesn’t value invented borders or the monopolization of natural resources, but rather the goal of a happier more loving humanity.”

22) “I realized a long time ago that instead of being jealous you can be inspired and appreciative. It carries more energy to you. That can be an awesome and motivating force that can improve your life if you choose to be inspired and not jealous. One has no benefit whatsoever, the other is an incredible resource for creating momentum and improvement.”

23) “The key to happiness doesn’t lay in numbers in a bank account but in the way we make others feel and the way they make us feel.”

24) “Very few people actually look up at night and go wow, that literally is infinite. We are floating in infinity. It is easier to see infinity than it is to see the ground. I have more view of the infinity.”

25) “To really appreciate life you got to know you’re going to die.”

26) “When someone comes along and expresses him or herself as freely as they think, people flock to it. They enjoy it.”

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27) “The universe rewards calculated risk and passion.”

28) “The audience changes every night. You’re the same person. You have to speak your mind and do the stuff that you think is funny and makes you laugh…I never want to compromise my act just to get a laugh.”

29) “Work for that feeling that you have accomplished something…Don’t waste your time on this earth without making a mark.”

30) “Discomfort is your friend. It doesn’t matter if you’re sick, if you have kids… if you’re a pro, you go to work…The worst choice that a man can make is to become comfortable.”

31) “Bad breaks are an opportunity for you to reboot, to reassess, get better, figure out another way through your challenges. The people that look at those challenges and say ‘Well why do I have those challenges?’ – They’re cancer. They are dangerous people to be around. They will rob you of your enthusiasm and won’t give you any fuel.”

32) “All the time that you spend complaining, you could instead be hustling. You could be chasing your dream. You could be figuring out what you’re doing wrong and improving your life.”

33) “The people I know that have the hardest time keeping it together emotionally are people that don’t work out.”

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34) “Do things that are difficult. It’s very important to struggle. You don’t get to know yourself without struggle. You don’t know who you are until you get tested.”

35) “In order to be truly great at something you have to give into a certain amount of madness.”

36) “One of the most fascinating lessons I’ve absorbed about life is that the struggle is good.”

37) “90% of success is just showing up. Get there and start working. You’re not going to feel perfect everyday. There’s gotta be those days you push through.”

38) “If things aren’t going the way you want them to go, then do something about it! Quit talking about your problems and go out and do something to fix them!” 

39) “The brain is the general and the troops are the body.  Write down your goals and get stuff done.”

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40) “Fuel people are the ones out there hustling and always getting things done. My friend Jocko works out at 4:30 in the morning every day. Why? Because he doesn’t want to. That’s how you do it. You go and get after it and don’t make any excuses.”

41) “Resistance is the key battle that you’re going to fight for the rest of your life, but the key to overcoming that resistance is to fight it. Every day you do so, you have won the battle for that day.”

42)“There’s levels to dedication, to discipline, to drive to focus to obsession. There’s levels to it – and if you’re sitting on the sidelines saying “It must be nice”, you just don’t get it.”

43)“Greatness and madness are next door neighbors and they often borrow each other’s sugar.”

44) “100% of all haters in the world are unrealized potential.”

45) “I want to make sure that everything that I’m creating, I’m creating it so other people get enjoyment out of it. And that’s the reward that you get for that.”

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