Aging versus Maturing

“Most people don’t grow up. Most people age. They find parking spaces, honor their credit cards, get married, have children, and call that maturity. What that is, is aging.”

— Maya Angelou 

Let’s face it – humans are mostly shallow. 

We mostly live by appearances – the way people & things “appear” to be. 

And the older people get – the more they seem to lose their inner self in order to fit in with the way things appear to be. 

But the way things appear, are rarely how they actually are. 

Emerson said “It is not length of life, but depth.” 

If we are living in shallow, reactive, consumerist societies, where is the time for any depth?  

Cultivating depth in your life is where maturing happens, and if you don’t do that, you only age – like most people.  

Steve Jobs said “Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.”   

First, understand that the majority of people on earth never find their inner voice, the inner self, and they live life reacting to life circumstances. 

That is perfectly okay, but if you want to break free from the reactive ways of society, you must find your inner voice. 

You have an inner voice – everybody does – but like I said, they usually lose it as they age. 

If it was easy, everyone would do it. What is easy is losing your voice to conform to what’s going on outside of you. What is easy is following. 

What is difficult, is leading. Especially leading from within.

People will call you crazy for having a life & mind of your own, since they’ve conformed to the shallow ways of society. But those are the people you do not want to listen to, or fit in with, if you want to have depth in your life. 

Be in the world but not of it!!! 

Spend time alone with yourself, away from the tv and technology – to connect with yourself. To detach from the outside world and seek the power within yourself. 

Meditate. Go into nature. 

Nikola Tesla said “The mind is sharper and keener in seclusion and uninterrupted solitude.” 

If you’re never alone, it’s almost impossible to know who you really are – and I think the majority of people don’t care or are afraid of being with themselves.

Blaise Pascal said “All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.”  

If you can enjoy spending time with yourself, alone with yourself – you will begin finding depth in your life – although you may be called strange. That’s ok. I’m very strange, and I love myself. 

Jiddu Krishnamurti said “It is of no measure of health to be well-adjusted to a profoundly sick society.” 

So you can spend your life trying to fit in with shallow people, or you can take the journey of self discovery. 

Will you age? Or mature?

The choice is yours. 

The Benefits of Psilocybin Mushrooms: A New Frontier in Mental Health and Personal Growth

Psilocybin mushrooms, often referred to as “magic mushrooms,” have been used for centuries in spiritual and healing rituals by indigenous cultures around the world. Today, modern science is catching up with ancient wisdom, exploring the therapeutic and psychological benefits of psilocybin, the primary psychoactive compound found in these fungi. With research accelerating and legal frameworks beginning to shift, psilocybin mushrooms are becoming a focal point in conversations around mental health, addiction treatment, and personal development.

1. Mental Health Breakthroughs

One of the most promising areas of psilocybin research lies in its ability to treat mental health conditions that are often resistant to traditional therapies.

• Depression: Clinical trials conducted by institutions like Johns Hopkins University and Imperial College London have shown that psilocybin-assisted therapy can produce rapid and sustained reductions in depressive symptoms, often after just one or two sessions.

• Anxiety: Particularly in individuals facing life-threatening diagnoses such as cancer, psilocybin has helped reduce existential anxiety and increase acceptance and emotional resilience.

• Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD): While more research is needed, early findings suggest that psilocybin can help patients process traumatic experiences more constructively by temporarily disrupting ingrained thought patterns and allowing new perspectives to emerge.

2. Addiction Treatment

Psilocybin has shown significant potential in treating various forms of addiction, including alcohol dependence and smoking.

• In clinical settings, patients report a newfound sense of clarity and motivation following psilocybin experiences, often citing a sense of being “reset” or realigned with their core values.

• A study from Johns Hopkins University found that 80% of participants in a smoking cessation trial were still abstinent six months after treatment with psilocybin-assisted therapy—a far higher success rate than traditional methods.

3. Cognitive and Emotional Flexibility

Psilocybin alters activity in the brain’s default mode network (DMN), which is linked to self-referential thinking and rumination. Reducing activity in this area can help users break out of repetitive, negative thought patterns.

• Users often describe experiences of ego dissolution, where the boundaries between self and world temporarily dissolve, leading to increased feelings of connection and empathy.

• These insights can result in improved emotional regulation, greater creativity, and a shift in life priorities—benefits that extend well beyond the duration of the psychedelic experience itself.

4. Spiritual and Existential Insights

Many people who take psilocybin report deeply meaningful spiritual experiences, even when the context is clinical rather than religious.

• These experiences often lead to lasting changes in values, attitudes, and behaviors, including greater appreciation for life, improved relationships, and increased openness.

• A landmark study published in Psychopharmacology found that over 60% of participants rated their psilocybin session as one of the five most meaningful experiences of their lives.

5. Low Risk of Harm and Dependency

Unlike many pharmaceutical drugs or substances of abuse, psilocybin has a very low potential for addiction and physical harm.

• It is not considered physically addictive, and the body quickly builds tolerance, making frequent recreational use unlikely.

• When used responsibly in a supportive setting, the risks of adverse psychological effects can be significantly mitigated.

Looking Ahead: Cautious Optimism

Despite their benefits, psilocybin mushrooms are not a panacea. They are powerful psychoactive substances that can cause distressing experiences, particularly in unsupervised or unprepared contexts. However, with growing support for medicalization, decriminalization, and regulated therapeutic use, the future of psilocybin as a tool for healing and transformation is bright.

As more clinical trials are conducted and public perceptions shift, psilocybin may well become a central part of how we address some of the most persistent challenges in mental health and human well-being.

https://www.amazon.com/Psychedelic-Trip-Journal-Psil-Silva/dp/B08FP7SQMS

Disclaimer: This article is intended for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. Psilocybin remains illegal in many jurisdictions and should only be used where legal and under appropriate guidance.

10 Quotes From Dan Millman’s The Peaceful Warrior To Bring You Happiness Today

1) “There is no need to search; achievement leads to nowhere. It makes no difference at all, so just be happy now! Love is the only reality of the world, because it is all One, you see. And the only laws are paradox, humor and change. There is no problem, never was, and never will be. Release your struggle, let go of your mind, throw away your concerns, and relax into the world. No need to resist life, just do your best. Open your eyes and see that you are far more than you imagine. You are the world, you are the universe; you are yourself and everyone else, too! It’s all the marvelous Play of God. Wake up, regain your humor. Don’t worry, just be happy. You are already free!” 

2) “Reality never matched their dreams; happiness was just around the corner — a corner they never turned. And the source of it all was the human mind.”

3) “Sometimes sorrow, sometimes joy. But beneath it all remember the innate perfection of your life unfolding. That is the secret of unreasonable happiness.” 

4) “And so I awoke to reality, free of any meaning or any search. What could there possibly be to search for? All of Socrate’s words had come alive with my death. This was the paradox of it all, the humor of it all, and the great change. All searches, all achievements, all goals, were equally enjoyable, and equally unnecessary.” 

5) “Act happy, be happy, without a reason in the world. Then you can love, and do what you will.”

6) “The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less.”

7) “‘What do I do then, now? Where do I go from here?’ Dan asked Socrates.

‘Who cares?’ He yelled gleefully.  ‘A fool is ‘happy’ when his cravings are satisfied. A warrior is happy without reason.  That’s what makes happiness the ultimate discipline—above all else I have taught you.’”

8) “Stay in the present. You can do nothing to change the past, and the future will never come exactly as you plan or hope for.  The warrior is here, now. Your sorrow, your fear & anger, regret & guilt, your envy and plans and cravings live only in the past, or in the future.”

9) “Like most people, you’ve been taught to gather information from outside yourself; from books, magazines, experts.  Like this car, you open up and let the facts pour in.  Sometimes the information is premium and sometimes it’s low octane.  You buy your knowledge at the current market rates, much like you buy gasoline.  Like this gas tank, you are overflowing with preconceptions; full of useless knowledge.  You hold many facts and opinions, yet know little of yourself.  Before you can learn, you’ll have to first empty your tank.

10) “Wake up! If you knew for certain that you had a terminal illness – if you had precious little time left to make use of your life and consider who you are, you’d not waste time on self-indulgence or fear, lethargy or ambition.  You do have a terminal illness – it is death. Be happy now, without reason – or you never will be at all.”

1 Empowering Message From The Alchemist

“…That’s what alchemists do. They show that, when we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better, too.”
—Paulo Coelho

Life can be a mysterious experience, and yet, in one way that life is not mysterious is that when we become better versions of ourselves, everything around us improves. 

This is a Fact of Life.

17 Marcus Aurelius Quotes On Dealing with Other People

1) “Don’t pay attention to other people’s minds. Look straight ahead, where nature is leading you, through the things that happen to you through your own actions.”

2) “When you wake up in the morning, tell yourself: The people I deal with today will be meddling, ungrateful, arrogant, dishonest, jealous, and unfriendly.  They are like this because they can’t tell good from evil.”

3) “Welcoming wholeheartedly whatever comes- whatever were assigned—not worrying too often, or with any selfish motive, about what other people say. Or do, or think.”

4) “Don’t waste the rest of your time here worrying about other people—unless it affects the common good.  It will keep you from doing anything useful.  You’ll be too preoccupied with what so-and-so is doing, and why, and what they’re saying, and what they’re thinking, and what they’re up to, and all the other things that throw you off and keep you from focusing on your own mind.”

5) “God did not intend my happiness to rest with someone else.”

6) “You want praise from people who kick themselves every 15 minutes, the approval of people who despise themselves…..why do you want approval from people who don’t know where or who they are on this planet?”

7) “The tranquility that comes when you stop caring what they say. Or think, or do.  Only what you do. Asking yourself: Is this fair?  Is this the right thing to do?”

8) “So other people hurt me? That’s their problem. Their character and actions are not mine.”

9) “So remember this principle when someone threatens to cause you pain: the thing itself was no misfortune at all; to endure it and prevail is great good fortune.”

10) “That to expect bad people not to injure others is crazy. It’s to ask the impossible. And to let them behave like that to other people but expect them to exempt you is arrogant—the act of a tyrant.”

11) “If they’ve injured you, then they’re the ones who suffer for it.”

12) “Other people’s mistakes? Leave them to their makers.”

13) “If anyone can refute me-show me I’m making a mistake or looking at things from the wrong perspective— I’ll gladly change. It’s the truth I’m after, and the truth never harmed anyone. What harms us is to persist in self-deceit and ignorance.”

14) “Whenever you are about to find fault with someone, ask yourself the following question: What fault of mine most nearly resembles the one I am about to criticize?”

15) “Don’t be put off by other people’s comments and criticism.”

16) “Not to be distracted by their darkness.  To run straight for the finish line, unswerving.”

17) A straightforward honest person should be like someone who stinks: when you’re in the same room with him, you know it.  But false straightforwardness is like a knife in the back. False friendship is the worst.  Avoid it at all costs. If you’re honest and straightforward and mean well, it should show in your eyes. It should be unmistakable.”

To Blame or Not To Blame

“They blame those who remain silent, they blame those who speak much, they blame those who speak in moderation. There is none in the world who is not blamed.”
– Buddha

This Buddha quote reminds me of an Aristotle quote: 

“There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.”

We live in a hyper critical world of insecure projections. 

^This makes it hard for any of us to live. 

Because when we go against the grain – when we don’t conform to how they say we should live – we get criticized & blamed.

The crabs in the bucket try to pull us back down into the bucket with them – for whatever reason – mostly fear.

But we weren’t meant to live in that bucket. 

We we meant to live free.

We Are meant to live free.

So let’s do a little less blaming, and a little more living.

Live With Purpose

“Live with purpose. Don’t let people or things around you get you down.”
– Albert Einstein

This world is filled with people blindly bouncing off each other – reacting to stimuli.

Then there are people who break out from reacting & are able to live with purpose.

We are here to live with purpose.

Less reacting – More responding.

With purpose.

Integration

The definition of integration, from Oxford dictionary is “the action or process of integrating.” & Integrate is defined as “combine (one thing) with another so that they become whole.”

The process of integration can take time, but it’s always happening. 

Within these CoachT posts I bring to you what inspires me – ideas, people, places, experiences, and dreams. 

One experience that highly influenced my life was my first experience with psilocybin mushrooms. You can read about my first psilocybin trip here.

I’ve also been involved as an activist towards legalizing plant medicines, because I know their healing qualities firsthand. 

I’ve created a pen name, Psil Silva, where I share my experiences & add my two cents into life, in regards to the area of natural plant medicines like psilocybin mushrooms.

My name, your name, these aren’t as important as what is beyond our names – the peace beyond understanding.

& this is why it’s hard for many to understand – because it’s literally beyond understanding. 

It’s an experience. 

Anyway, I hope to integrate my websites, books, & ideas, to share the best of what I learn, with you.

It may be useful & it may not, so, as Bruce Lee says “absorb what is useful, reject what is useless, add what is essentially your own.” 

It’s all related, all connected, and one of the short books I wrote that you may like best is titled The 7 Psychedelic Meditations.

Check it out here on Amazon & please leave a review. 

Let me know what you think! 🙂

Do It Today

“Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small. A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.”
– Lao Tzu


What dream do you have?

Are you taking actions towards your dream?

What is one thing you can do today to begin turning dreams into reality?

It won’t happen overnight, but it won’t happen until you first have the dream.

To Break or Not To Break?

“The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places.”
—Ernest Hemingway

Personally, I’m just thinking about whether to break from writing every day to writing once a week – or something like that.

But in relation to the Hemingway quote, yes, the world breaks us all. 

“Life is suffering” said Buddha.

& it’s true. Life hurts. We all go through it. Your pain is valid.

The question is, where will you go from here?

What did you learn from your pain? 

What are you still learning from it?

We are never too old to learn something new.

An old dog can learn new tricks. 

It’s a matter of patience, persistence, and humility, to name a few, but the list goes on.