Focus Means Saying “No” Often

“There are measures of focus and one of them is how often you say no.”

— Steve Jobs  

Almost everything cries out for your attention.  

They say:

Look at me!  

Think of me! 

Listen to me! 

Your parents want your attention. 

Your teachers want your attention.

Your children want your attention.

Your government wants your attention. 

Your friends want your attention. 

Celebrities want your attention.

Mr Potato Head wants your attention. 

And so there’s a certain balance needed in giving our attention to others. 

It’s healthy to give your attention to people you trust, people who are helping, and people you help. 

But we don’t need to give our attention to everyone. 

And most importantly, we must attend to ourselves as much as possible. 

Listen to yourself. 

What do you think? What do you actually think? (Don’t just repeat something you’ve heard) 

What do you want? 

It’s healthy to not give our attention to everything. It’s healthy to say no.  

It’s healthy to focus on your life path & to not be distracted by all the noise and people outside of ourselves.  

So, go your way. 

Trust your path. 

And say no to any strangers who go out of their way to get your attention. (Even if they’re in the government …governments should be here to protect and serve – & not to scare people…) 

Too Much Fear Is Slavery

“The slavery of fear has made men afraid to think.”

— Thomas Paine  

Fear is not always bad, but too much fear is unhealthy for your brain and body.  

It’s okay to be afraid of lions and tigers and bears. Oh my.  

But you should not ever be afraid to use your brain – to think. 

Governments go out of their way to make their own people afraid to think – and most people quietly surrender their minds – and since almost everybody does it, it’s easy to conform. 

But that is irrational & impractical to give up your mind to “fit in.”

The military also uses fear to destroy the minds of the people who just joined the military. Boot camp, etc. They scream and shout. They wake people up at different times throughout the night. 

They break your mind and spirit until you are so disconnected from yourself that you literally cannot think anymore. Your brain is in fear mode. Now those fearful soldiers are only obedient to their superiors and do as they say, without question.  

Fear fear fear. 

The antidote to fear is education. 

The more you learn, the less you have to be afraid of. 

But also the more you learn – the more of a threat you may appear to be to any tyrants and cruel governments. 

Intelligence should not be a threat – but it is to governments who only desire power & control.  

Dare to think. 

Dare To Use Your Mind

“The man who obeys his own mind is accused of rebellion by those who never used theirs.” 

Education is powerful – real education – and not just repeating something you hear.  

Real education involves using your own mind. Reading. Thinking. Learning. 

And to not just conform to being a mindless lifeless nothing of a person. 

Governments love mindless obedient servants, and if a real genius or real spiritual teachers arrives on the planet – the government does what it can to shut them up, since the government doesn’t want educated citizens. They want scared obedient slaves. 

They want people to give up their own mind, their own education, to conform to being an ignorant, scared, anxious, person. 

And then you can take all the prescription pills from big pharma to make it so you’re numb to what the government has actually done to you.  

OR!! You can say no. To the government. They do not own you, or me, or anyone. 

Well maybe they own you, but they don’t own me. 

I am my own master. I use my mind. I learn. 

I lead my life, and I don’t let any mindless ignorant fearful conformists get in my way. Trust me, they’ve tried. 

And for a year or two I really wondered how so many people have given up their own mind – and why they did so… 

fear, probably. Maybe to fit in with all the other no-minded “people” .. 

who knows, but I will never ever give up my mind and my education to fit in with ignorant, mindless, dead-minded people.

Expand Your Mind Beyond The Times

“Every man is a creature of the age in which he lives and few are able to to raise themselves above the ideas of the time.”

— Voltaire  

Humans are products of their environment, and few are able to perceive beyond current times.  

One of the best ways to start thinking beyond current times is to study history. 

Who are your favorite humans from the past? From 2,000 years ago. 

From 500 years ago. 

200 years ago.  

Think of your favorite humans and then go read about them. 

Learn about the lifestyle they lived. 

Learn about how there were no bathrooms or running water. Learn about the slaves & emperors in Egypt, and the Kings of Scotland. 

Learn about Shakespeare and da Vinci & artists throughout the years.  

As you do your research you will be able to (in your mind) transport yourself to the time & era of those people.  

You’ll learn that things are always changing – and that the things today that so many people cling to as absolutely true – may not be true at all, and time will tell. 

Conformity is strong and always has been – but dare to think beyond today’s beliefs. 

Dare to think. 

Dare to research and come up with your own beliefs. 

Sticky & Flowing Mind

Are you ever walking in a public space and you pass by a person and they get in your head? 

It happens to me sometimes. 

I’m focused on living my life, going somewhere, and then a person passes me and then they get in my mind and I can’t seem to push them out. 

I don’t usually have this problem, and it happens less, but it does happen sometimes, and I call this a sticky mind. 

When I’m flowing, I’m focused, leading my life, centered within myself & accomplishing things. 

When I’m sticky minded I’m distracted by people outside of myself – or noises, or anything that is not my goals and dreams… 

If it happens to me, it must happen to others. Does this ever happen to you? 

Anyway, something I remind myself of is that “these thoughts will pass,” and I will be centered again soon and focused. 

I don’t need to fight these thoughts out of my mind – although sometimes I try doing that. 

I need to just relax my mind & not take the distracting thoughts of strangers so seriously. It will pass. I will have a stronger mind. I am an empowered individual. 

Aging versus Maturing

“Most people don’t grow up. Most people age. They find parking spaces, honor their credit cards, get married, have children, and call that maturity. What that is, is aging.”

— Maya Angelou 

Let’s face it – humans are mostly shallow. 

We mostly live by appearances – the way people & things “appear” to be. 

And the older people get – the more they seem to lose their inner self in order to fit in with the way things appear to be. 

But the way things appear, are rarely how they actually are. 

Emerson said “It is not length of life, but depth.” 

If we are living in shallow, reactive, consumerist societies, where is the time for any depth?  

Cultivating depth in your life is where maturing happens, and if you don’t do that, you only age – like most people.  

Steve Jobs said “Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.”   

First, understand that the majority of people on earth never find their inner voice, the inner self, and they live life reacting to life circumstances. 

That is perfectly okay, but if you want to break free from the reactive ways of society, you must find your inner voice. 

You have an inner voice – everybody does – but like I said, they usually lose it as they age. 

If it was easy, everyone would do it. What is easy is losing your voice to conform to what’s going on outside of you. What is easy is following. 

What is difficult, is leading. Especially leading from within.

People will call you crazy for having a life & mind of your own, since they’ve conformed to the shallow ways of society. But those are the people you do not want to listen to, or fit in with, if you want to have depth in your life. 

Be in the world but not of it!!! 

Spend time alone with yourself, away from the tv and technology – to connect with yourself. To detach from the outside world and seek the power within yourself. 

Meditate. Go into nature. 

Nikola Tesla said “The mind is sharper and keener in seclusion and uninterrupted solitude.” 

If you’re never alone, it’s almost impossible to know who you really are – and I think the majority of people don’t care or are afraid of being with themselves.

Blaise Pascal said “All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.”  

If you can enjoy spending time with yourself, alone with yourself – you will begin finding depth in your life – although you may be called strange. That’s ok. I’m very strange, and I love myself. 

Jiddu Krishnamurti said “It is of no measure of health to be well-adjusted to a profoundly sick society.” 

So you can spend your life trying to fit in with shallow people, or you can take the journey of self discovery. 

Will you age? Or mature?

The choice is yours. 

You Need A Stronger Mind

“If someone succeeds in provoking you, realize that your mind is complicit in the provocation.”

— Epictetus 

Some miserable people live their life looking for the next opportunity to provoke or bother someone. 

Don’t let it be you. 

Even if they go out of their way to insult you – you can’t get angry if you have a strong mind. 

The easy route is to be annoyed, to be miserable, to be distracted, to be hopeless, to be disempowered. 

And the hard route is to live as an empowered individual. To remain calm, centered, and uneffected by the hate & misery of others.  

Provocation is just another distraction sent by the ignorant to destroy your inner peace. 

The ignorant have no life of their own so they become lifeless parasites, literally like diseased bugs, trying to spread their disease – their hate, misery, violence, ignorance, pain, etc. and they’ll get you if you don’t put your bug spray on. 

And what is your bug spray in this situation? It’s focus. 

You must remain focused on your mind and your life. 

What are you doing with your life? 

Where are you going? 

What do you want your life to be like 2 years from now? 5 years. 10 years. 

Maintain a long term vision, add goals, and act toward your best life, and when other people call you “difficult” it’s because you can’t be provoked or manipulated. 

Stay true to your life path. 

Ignore the haters. 

Focus. Win.

True Peace Is Within

“Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.”

— Buddha  

Have you ever felt anxious or scared and immediately sought a person or an item to calm your nerves? 

I have. 

I’ve sought out spiritual teachers from multiple religions. I’ve read books. I’ve used items. 

These teachers and books and items have helped calm my mind and heart, but I never became dependent on them. 

They pointed the way towards true peace – and that way was within myself. 

You’ll likely never find peace in politics – as it’s always changing and politicians lie and attack each other… there’s no peace in that, but a large number of people look to politicians for some reason.  

So how do you discover peace within yourself? 

Begin by meditating. 

It won’t happen overnight, but if you seek peace for long enough – you will have it. 

Who Do You Trust?

“They trust me, and they’ve forgotten how to rely on their own instincts, because I lead them to nourishment.”

— Paulo Coelho (Santiago speaking in The Alchemist) 

We live in societies where a range of people are seeking your attention. Some of these people may be helpful, and some deceive. 

How can you know who to trust? 

Do you rely upon your own instinct? Or do you take someone’s word for it?  

I began with the above quote from The Alchemist because I’ve observed that certain governments snatch away people’s minds & instincts, and desire for the people to obey the government, but does the government lead people to nourishment? 

To me, it appears that current governments desire to control people, yet they rarely lead anyone to nourishment. 

Do you rely on a government to tell you what to believe? What to think? How to live? 

Or do you make those choices yourself? 

Opinions and Reality

“In Zen they say: ‘Don’t seek the truth. Just cease to cherish opinions.’ What does that mean? Let go of identification with your mind. Who you are beyond the mind then emerges by itself.”

— Eckhart Tolle

This idea is one that I am still practicing, and it is of a zen-type origin.

The reality that we all are much more & less than the opinions we create & speak about ourselves & others.

The idea that our real self is an experience beyond words.

This is an idea & a reality that is difficult to comprehend & even more difficult to experience, yet it is liberating to practice.

It’a at least a meditation, and at most a way of life.

What opinions are you holding within yourself that weigh you down? Opinions that anger you? Opinions that limit your experience?

Here’s a meditation guide to get you started.