Whose Expectations Are You Living For?

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”

— Bruce Lee  

What does the world expect of you? Nothing much.   

What do your parents expect of you? It’s different for each household.  

What do your friends & peers expect of you? Probably to be like them.  

What are your expectations for yourself? Have you taken time to think about not what others expect of you, but what you expect of yourself? 

I am still figuring out what I expect from myself.  

I feel the pressure from the external world to be a certain way, but what way do I want to be?   

A professional. An artist. A leader. A philosopher. 

I’m still growing in each of these areas. 

There’s always more to read, more to learn, more to discover, more to imagine, more to share.  

Look For Opportunities, NOT For Problems

“Effective people are not problem-minded; they’re opportunity minded.”

— Stephen Covey   

Do you look for problems? 

Or do you look for opportunities?  

Seek and you shall find – if you’re looking for problems you will find them. 

And if you look for opportunities, you’ll also find them. 

But let’s look at the problem seeking for a moment…  

It is so easy to find problems if you look for them – & it seems like the older people get the more they look for problems (especially problems about other people).  

This is true for me at least – not me looking for faults in people, but realizing that people were looking for faults in me & my life.  

I never wasted my time or energy thinking about what’s wrong with someone – but I found out that people do that all the time. 

Some or many people are actively seeking scapegoats. Seeking someone to blame or find fault with.  

And I didn’t know that people were doing that until I ran into a brick wall of people’s opinions about me & my eccentric ways, as I prepared for fame.  

All of a sudden I went from opportunity & joy minded to problem minded. I went from living in peace to living in fear, and I began seeing problems with everyone & everything – which I wasn’t looking at before. 

I lost my energy and my mind in looking outside of myself, towards potential problems, and I’ve been working hard to get my mind back with myself since then. It’s been 3 years.  

I’m re-learning to lead my life & be true to myself. 

I’m re-learning to NOT be like the problem-seeking people. 

And I’m learning to NOT take on the fearful projections of the problem-seekers. 

I’m re-learning a lot. 

And I’m embracing MY perspective and MY beliefs. 

And not worrying if people see a problem with me having my own perspective – because they will. 

But some will love it too, and to those fans I say thank you.  

Sticky & Flowing Mind

Are you ever walking in a public space and you pass by a person and they get in your head? 

It happens to me sometimes. 

I’m focused on living my life, going somewhere, and then a person passes me and then they get in my mind and I can’t seem to push them out. 

I don’t usually have this problem, and it happens less, but it does happen sometimes, and I call this a sticky mind. 

When I’m flowing, I’m focused, leading my life, centered within myself & accomplishing things. 

When I’m sticky minded I’m distracted by people outside of myself – or noises, or anything that is not my goals and dreams… 

If it happens to me, it must happen to others. Does this ever happen to you? 

Anyway, something I remind myself of is that “these thoughts will pass,” and I will be centered again soon and focused. 

I don’t need to fight these thoughts out of my mind – although sometimes I try doing that. 

I need to just relax my mind & not take the distracting thoughts of strangers so seriously. It will pass. I will have a stronger mind. I am an empowered individual. 

To Love In The Midst of Chaos

“I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.”

— MLK jr.  

MLK jr was one a kind. 

There are only a very few examples of humans acting like Jesus Christ, and MLK jr was one of them. 

Throughout his life & his time as a leader he was often threatened, assaulted, his house was partly bombed, and some of these assaults came from police officers…. 

MLK jr never threatened anyone back. He basically turned the other cheek, similar to Jesus, & his impact will live on forever.  

How can someone love at all after being attacked so many times? 

You Need A Stronger Mind

“If someone succeeds in provoking you, realize that your mind is complicit in the provocation.”

— Epictetus 

Some miserable people live their life looking for the next opportunity to provoke or bother someone. 

Don’t let it be you. 

Even if they go out of their way to insult you – you can’t get angry if you have a strong mind. 

The easy route is to be annoyed, to be miserable, to be distracted, to be hopeless, to be disempowered. 

And the hard route is to live as an empowered individual. To remain calm, centered, and uneffected by the hate & misery of others.  

Provocation is just another distraction sent by the ignorant to destroy your inner peace. 

The ignorant have no life of their own so they become lifeless parasites, literally like diseased bugs, trying to spread their disease – their hate, misery, violence, ignorance, pain, etc. and they’ll get you if you don’t put your bug spray on. 

And what is your bug spray in this situation? It’s focus. 

You must remain focused on your mind and your life. 

What are you doing with your life? 

Where are you going? 

What do you want your life to be like 2 years from now? 5 years. 10 years. 

Maintain a long term vision, add goals, and act toward your best life, and when other people call you “difficult” it’s because you can’t be provoked or manipulated. 

Stay true to your life path. 

Ignore the haters. 

Focus. Win.

Selective Acquaintances & Friends

“You can die from someone else’s misery — emotional states are as infectious as diseases.”

— Robert Greene 

He also says to avoid the unhappy and unlucky.  

You become similar to the 5 people you are closest to, so who are you around the most? 

Are they happy?

Depressed? 

Negative? 

Positive? 

Optimistic? 

Hopeless? 

And what is your state of mind? 

Are you bringing value and energy to the tables you sit at? 

One of the best things we all can do is decide who we let into our lives – and to be extremely selective about it – since we become similar to the people we hang out with.

12 Ideas from Thoreau’s “Civil Disobedience”

The year was 1849. 

The philosopher Henry David Thoreau was in jail for refusing to pay his poll tax to protest the Mexican-American war and slavery.  

Reflecting on his night in jail, Thoreau wrote an essay titled “Civil Disobedience” 

Here are 12 quotes from this essay that capture its essence:  

1 “This American government — what is it but a tradition, though a recent one, endeavoring to transmit itself unimpaired to posterity, but each instant losing some of its integrity?” 

… “Governments show thus how successfully men can be imposed upon, even impose on themselves, for their own advantage.”  

2 “I ask for, not at once no government, but at once a better government. Let every man make known what kind of government would command his respect, and that will be one step toward obtaining it.”  

3 “It is truly enough said that a corporation has no conscience; but a corporation of conscientious men is a corporation with a conscious.”  

4 “A common and natural result of an undue respect for the law is, that you may see a file of soldiers, colonel, captain, corporal, privates, powder-monkeys, and all, marching in admirable order over hill and dale to the wars, against their wills, ay, against their common sense and consciences, which makes it very steep marching indeed, and produces a palpitation of heart…. Now, what are they? Men at all? Or small movable forts and magazines, at the service of some unscrupulous man in power?” 

5 “The mass of men serve the state thus, not as men mainly, but as machines, with their bodies…In most cases there is no free exercise whatever of the judgment or of the moral sense; but they put themselves on a level with wood and earth and stones; and wooden men can perhaps be manufactured that will serve the purpose as well. Such command no more respect than men of straw or a lump of dirt. They have the same sort of worth only as horses and dogs. Yet such as these even are commonly esteemed good citizens.” 

6 “There are thousands who are in opinion opposed to slavery and to the war, who yet in effect do nothing to put an end to them.”

7 “Unjust laws exists: shall we be content to obey them, or shall we endeavor to amend them, and obey them until we have succeeded, or shall we transgress them at once?” 

8 “But if it is of such nature that it requires you to be an agent of injustice to another, then I say, break the law.” 

9 “Is there not a sort of bloodshed when the conscience is wounded? Through this wound a man’s real manhood and immortality flow out, and he bleeds an everlasting death. I see this blood flowing now.” 

10 “Thus the state never intentionally confronts a man’s sense, intellectual or moral, but only his body, his senses. It is not armed with superior wit or honesty, but with superior physical strength. I was not born to be forced. I will breathe after my own fashion.” 

11 “If we were left solely to the wordy wit of legislators in Congress for our guidance, uncorrected by the seasonal experience and the effectual complaints of the people, America would not long retain her rank among the nations.” 

12 “The progress from an absolute to a limited monarchy, from a limited monarchy to a democracy, is a progress toward a true respect for the individual.” 

Do This To Be More Self-Empowered

“Nature is not mute. It is humans who are deaf.”

Noises surround you daily, keeping you moving, but in what direction?

There really are certain “powers that be” that live to create distracting noises.

They want to keep you in fear, in anxiety, in anger, etc…basically, they want you to be dis-empowered.

They want to control you & your life & they have brainwashed the masses to try to distract you too, and to bring you into their confusion.

What you need to do to begin to get out of the confusion of the conformist masses, is first, recognize this is really happening.

Second, think about your life & what sort of life you would like to be living.

What does your ideal life look like?

Dare to dream.

Dare to step away from the conformists confused masses & live your best life.

Before listening to the distracting noises, listen to yourself. Listen to nature. Go within.

Comparing, Thriving

We as humans often compare ourselves to each other – or to people of the past. But the thing we probably do most is compare ourselves to our immediate environments & those there.

Sometimes our environments become boxes and trap us in, and sometimes our environments provide freedom.

When we thrive & strive to improve ourselves, to live our best lives, helping others, we are living in more freedom.

When we are comparing ourselves with anger, hating, envious, offensive & defensive, we most likely stay in a box.

I have heard that winners focus on winning, and losers focus on winners.

You can be a winner & focus on other winners too, just don’t look into the sidelines or crowds too long or you may get lost in them, with them, and you don’t want that if you’re a leader, a person of influence; someone attaining their own freedom.

Perspective

“The universe is wider than our views of it.”
— Henry David Thoreau

Some beliefs are good, and some aren’t. How can you know?

If you believe in what you believe because it benefits you the most, then maybe it’s time to begin questioning your beliefs.

And maybe not.

But when you do question yourself or others, here’s a guide from Lao Tzu:

“Trying to understand is like straining through muddy water. Have the patience to wait! Be still and allow the mud to settle.”