Look For Opportunities, NOT For Problems

“Effective people are not problem-minded; they’re opportunity minded.”

— Stephen Covey   

Do you look for problems? 

Or do you look for opportunities?  

Seek and you shall find – if you’re looking for problems you will find them. 

And if you look for opportunities, you’ll also find them. 

But let’s look at the problem seeking for a moment…  

It is so easy to find problems if you look for them – & it seems like the older people get the more they look for problems (especially problems about other people).  

This is true for me at least – not me looking for faults in people, but realizing that people were looking for faults in me & my life.  

I never wasted my time or energy thinking about what’s wrong with someone – but I found out that people do that all the time. 

Some or many people are actively seeking scapegoats. Seeking someone to blame or find fault with.  

And I didn’t know that people were doing that until I ran into a brick wall of people’s opinions about me & my eccentric ways, as I prepared for fame.  

All of a sudden I went from opportunity & joy minded to problem minded. I went from living in peace to living in fear, and I began seeing problems with everyone & everything – which I wasn’t looking at before. 

I lost my energy and my mind in looking outside of myself, towards potential problems, and I’ve been working hard to get my mind back with myself since then. It’s been 3 years.  

I’m re-learning to lead my life & be true to myself. 

I’m re-learning to NOT be like the problem-seeking people. 

And I’m learning to NOT take on the fearful projections of the problem-seekers. 

I’m re-learning a lot. 

And I’m embracing MY perspective and MY beliefs. 

And not worrying if people see a problem with me having my own perspective – because they will. 

But some will love it too, and to those fans I say thank you.  

Think Your Own Thoughts

“An entire sea of water can’t sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly, the negativity of the world can’t pull you down unless you allow it to get inside you.”

— Thich Nhat Hahn 

From the time we are born, to the time we lose our own mind (death of individual mind), to the time we physically die, we are being told what to think. 

Parents tell us what to think. Newspapers tell us what to think. Governments tells us what to think. Television tells us what to think.  

Almost every child born with parents of one political party beliefs will inherit those beliefs. 

People think they have their own beliefs – but they almost never do. 

People’s beliefs are almost always inherited from their parents, and sometimes by their teachers.  

Ce la vie.  

Anyway, how can you break free from inherited beliefs and start thinking for yourself? 

You have to learn to think with yourself – within your own mind – to ask yourself questions and not just answer reactively, but to dwell in it, sometimes for days, weeks, months, and then brainstorm answers. 

This doesn’t happen overnight – especially in these shallow reactive emotional societies we live in. 

First, before you start thinking like a philosopher, you have to meditate. 

You have to let go of your thoughts and beliefs and just appreciate life beyond inherited beliefs, temporarily, as you continue on your journey.  

Here is a great beginners mediation guide. Also the word psychedelic comes from two Greek words that mean “Mind Manifesting.”

To Be Weird or To Fit In

“A secret to happiness is to be as weird as you like, and the wrong people will leave the party but the right ones will join the dance.”  

Weird. Weird. Weird. 

We all live in a yellow submarine. Well, I do at least, and that’s pretty weird. 

Kids are pretty weird, but they lose their weirdness as they try fitting in with others as they “grow up.” 

Conformity. Conformity. Conformity.  

Many of us are taught to conform. To “obey or else,” and that almost always takes our uniqueness away from us. 

People who are different almost always get ridiculed and made fun of by “normal” conformists – who have lost themselves in order to fit in. 

“They laugh at me for being different. I laugh at them for being all the same.” 

Maybe there can be a balance between fitting in and being your own person. 50/50 60/40 70/30 80/20 90/10, or whatever makes you live what you believe in. 

It’s okay to fit in, and it’s okay to be weird. 

The Importance of Nature

“When one loses the deep intimate relationship with nature, then temples, mosques, and churches become important.”

— Jiddu Krishnamurti 

Nature surrounds us everywhere we go. 

Nature is always the background, somewhere, but it’s also more than that. 

The sky, sun, moon, are a part of nature. And we have the water – oceans, rivers, seas, we have trees, bumblebees, snowy hills we ski. 

Nature is a living poem. It is living art. Nature is alive – and sometimes more alive than humans. 

I believe that the more connected with nature we are – the more connected we become with our individual selves and the community on a global scale.   

Here is a “psychedelic” journal you can bring into nature with you – and answer the writing prompts within, and follow the meditation session within this journal.  

The word psychedelic comes from Greek roots: “psyche” meaning soul or mind, and “delein” meaning to manifest or reveal. 

Aging versus Maturing

“Most people don’t grow up. Most people age. They find parking spaces, honor their credit cards, get married, have children, and call that maturity. What that is, is aging.”

— Maya Angelou 

Let’s face it – humans are mostly shallow. 

We mostly live by appearances – the way people & things “appear” to be. 

And the older people get – the more they seem to lose their inner self in order to fit in with the way things appear to be. 

But the way things appear, are rarely how they actually are. 

Emerson said “It is not length of life, but depth.” 

If we are living in shallow, reactive, consumerist societies, where is the time for any depth?  

Cultivating depth in your life is where maturing happens, and if you don’t do that, you only age – like most people.  

Steve Jobs said “Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.”   

First, understand that the majority of people on earth never find their inner voice, the inner self, and they live life reacting to life circumstances. 

That is perfectly okay, but if you want to break free from the reactive ways of society, you must find your inner voice. 

You have an inner voice – everybody does – but like I said, they usually lose it as they age. 

If it was easy, everyone would do it. What is easy is losing your voice to conform to what’s going on outside of you. What is easy is following. 

What is difficult, is leading. Especially leading from within.

People will call you crazy for having a life & mind of your own, since they’ve conformed to the shallow ways of society. But those are the people you do not want to listen to, or fit in with, if you want to have depth in your life. 

Be in the world but not of it!!! 

Spend time alone with yourself, away from the tv and technology – to connect with yourself. To detach from the outside world and seek the power within yourself. 

Meditate. Go into nature. 

Nikola Tesla said “The mind is sharper and keener in seclusion and uninterrupted solitude.” 

If you’re never alone, it’s almost impossible to know who you really are – and I think the majority of people don’t care or are afraid of being with themselves.

Blaise Pascal said “All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.”  

If you can enjoy spending time with yourself, alone with yourself – you will begin finding depth in your life – although you may be called strange. That’s ok. I’m very strange, and I love myself. 

Jiddu Krishnamurti said “It is of no measure of health to be well-adjusted to a profoundly sick society.” 

So you can spend your life trying to fit in with shallow people, or you can take the journey of self discovery. 

Will you age? Or mature?

The choice is yours. 

You Need A Stronger Mind

“If someone succeeds in provoking you, realize that your mind is complicit in the provocation.”

— Epictetus 

Some miserable people live their life looking for the next opportunity to provoke or bother someone. 

Don’t let it be you. 

Even if they go out of their way to insult you – you can’t get angry if you have a strong mind. 

The easy route is to be annoyed, to be miserable, to be distracted, to be hopeless, to be disempowered. 

And the hard route is to live as an empowered individual. To remain calm, centered, and uneffected by the hate & misery of others.  

Provocation is just another distraction sent by the ignorant to destroy your inner peace. 

The ignorant have no life of their own so they become lifeless parasites, literally like diseased bugs, trying to spread their disease – their hate, misery, violence, ignorance, pain, etc. and they’ll get you if you don’t put your bug spray on. 

And what is your bug spray in this situation? It’s focus. 

You must remain focused on your mind and your life. 

What are you doing with your life? 

Where are you going? 

What do you want your life to be like 2 years from now? 5 years. 10 years. 

Maintain a long term vision, add goals, and act toward your best life, and when other people call you “difficult” it’s because you can’t be provoked or manipulated. 

Stay true to your life path. 

Ignore the haters. 

Focus. Win.

Selective Acquaintances & Friends

“You can die from someone else’s misery — emotional states are as infectious as diseases.”

— Robert Greene 

He also says to avoid the unhappy and unlucky.  

You become similar to the 5 people you are closest to, so who are you around the most? 

Are they happy?

Depressed? 

Negative? 

Positive? 

Optimistic? 

Hopeless? 

And what is your state of mind? 

Are you bringing value and energy to the tables you sit at? 

One of the best things we all can do is decide who we let into our lives – and to be extremely selective about it – since we become similar to the people we hang out with.

True Peace Is Within

“Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.”

— Buddha  

Have you ever felt anxious or scared and immediately sought a person or an item to calm your nerves? 

I have. 

I’ve sought out spiritual teachers from multiple religions. I’ve read books. I’ve used items. 

These teachers and books and items have helped calm my mind and heart, but I never became dependent on them. 

They pointed the way towards true peace – and that way was within myself. 

You’ll likely never find peace in politics – as it’s always changing and politicians lie and attack each other… there’s no peace in that, but a large number of people look to politicians for some reason.  

So how do you discover peace within yourself? 

Begin by meditating. 

It won’t happen overnight, but if you seek peace for long enough – you will have it. 

12 Ideas from Thoreau’s “Civil Disobedience”

The year was 1849. 

The philosopher Henry David Thoreau was in jail for refusing to pay his poll tax to protest the Mexican-American war and slavery.  

Reflecting on his night in jail, Thoreau wrote an essay titled “Civil Disobedience” 

Here are 12 quotes from this essay that capture its essence:  

1 “This American government — what is it but a tradition, though a recent one, endeavoring to transmit itself unimpaired to posterity, but each instant losing some of its integrity?” 

… “Governments show thus how successfully men can be imposed upon, even impose on themselves, for their own advantage.”  

2 “I ask for, not at once no government, but at once a better government. Let every man make known what kind of government would command his respect, and that will be one step toward obtaining it.”  

3 “It is truly enough said that a corporation has no conscience; but a corporation of conscientious men is a corporation with a conscious.”  

4 “A common and natural result of an undue respect for the law is, that you may see a file of soldiers, colonel, captain, corporal, privates, powder-monkeys, and all, marching in admirable order over hill and dale to the wars, against their wills, ay, against their common sense and consciences, which makes it very steep marching indeed, and produces a palpitation of heart…. Now, what are they? Men at all? Or small movable forts and magazines, at the service of some unscrupulous man in power?” 

5 “The mass of men serve the state thus, not as men mainly, but as machines, with their bodies…In most cases there is no free exercise whatever of the judgment or of the moral sense; but they put themselves on a level with wood and earth and stones; and wooden men can perhaps be manufactured that will serve the purpose as well. Such command no more respect than men of straw or a lump of dirt. They have the same sort of worth only as horses and dogs. Yet such as these even are commonly esteemed good citizens.” 

6 “There are thousands who are in opinion opposed to slavery and to the war, who yet in effect do nothing to put an end to them.”

7 “Unjust laws exists: shall we be content to obey them, or shall we endeavor to amend them, and obey them until we have succeeded, or shall we transgress them at once?” 

8 “But if it is of such nature that it requires you to be an agent of injustice to another, then I say, break the law.” 

9 “Is there not a sort of bloodshed when the conscience is wounded? Through this wound a man’s real manhood and immortality flow out, and he bleeds an everlasting death. I see this blood flowing now.” 

10 “Thus the state never intentionally confronts a man’s sense, intellectual or moral, but only his body, his senses. It is not armed with superior wit or honesty, but with superior physical strength. I was not born to be forced. I will breathe after my own fashion.” 

11 “If we were left solely to the wordy wit of legislators in Congress for our guidance, uncorrected by the seasonal experience and the effectual complaints of the people, America would not long retain her rank among the nations.” 

12 “The progress from an absolute to a limited monarchy, from a limited monarchy to a democracy, is a progress toward a true respect for the individual.” 

Who Do You Trust?

“They trust me, and they’ve forgotten how to rely on their own instincts, because I lead them to nourishment.”

— Paulo Coelho (Santiago speaking in The Alchemist) 

We live in societies where a range of people are seeking your attention. Some of these people may be helpful, and some deceive. 

How can you know who to trust? 

Do you rely upon your own instinct? Or do you take someone’s word for it?  

I began with the above quote from The Alchemist because I’ve observed that certain governments snatch away people’s minds & instincts, and desire for the people to obey the government, but does the government lead people to nourishment? 

To me, it appears that current governments desire to control people, yet they rarely lead anyone to nourishment. 

Do you rely on a government to tell you what to believe? What to think? How to live? 

Or do you make those choices yourself?