How to Work with a Leader in Your Industry

First, what’s your industry?

I know, you’d think I wouldn’t have to ask that, but a lot of people don’t know what kind of work they’re in, or they hate what they do.

This post is geared toward you who are pursuing your dream work, but it’s a recipe that will work in any industry.

I have used this technique to meet famous people on movie and tv sets as an extra, and I now teach acting classes.

Another “coincidence” happened a couple years ago when I was deep into writing – I had been blogging for years before that, but I was definitely feeling more confident in my writing around this time(although looking back at it, it wasn’t that great). But I was confident in it! And it was pretty good.

Anyway! Ryan Holiday was and still is a writer I look up to. I was scrolling through his book recommendations in early April of 2018 I believe it was. I came across the book Meditations by Marcus Aurelius, it piqued my interest so I got it and read it in like a day or two, it was so good, one of my favorite books of all time. But then a few days later an intuitive thought led me to checking out Tattered Cover book store’s website, to see if any authors I knew were coming to Denver for a book signing. I hadn’t checked that site in months, literally, and guess who was coming to a book signing two days from that day? Ryan Holiday. I felt a strange sensation go through my whole body.

So, point two — After you know your industry, who do you look up to in it? Who are the leaders you’d love to work with?

A lot of people never think it can happen to them, but it can! Part of this technique is just thinking about who you’d like to work with, because the mind is an extremely powerful thing. So think about it.

Next — I saw an opportunity in this book signing. Opportunities surround us more than we know — they are like objects in the background, we don’t pay attention to them because well, there’s more convenient things to focus on. But they are there.

So I took time to hand write a letter for Ryan, giving my appreciation to him, the work he’s done, and the influence it has had in my life. I included my email toward the end of it and mentioned that I had been writing for some years now and would love to work with him if there were any openings. A few weeks later I get an email from him with a trial assignment if I was interested in the position. If that’s not magic then I don’t know what is. Who knows, but I was really fucking excited. I did the assignment, got the position, did the work, and learned so much. I’m still learning from him, and am grateful for that opportunity. Him being a best selling author and world speaker definitely didn’t need me, and although I wrote a good amount of content, he did so much more for me by giving me that opportunity. 

So that’s another thing — if you do get an opportunity with a leader in your industry, stay humble. They’re doing you a favor, not the other way around.

Then from there, do the work. 

Put in the time. 

Never stop learning.

But remember that it all begins with an idea. 

Joaquin Phoenix Oscars 2020 Award Speech Transcript

…But I think the greatest gift it’s given me and many of us in this room, is the opportunity to use our voice for the voiceless. 

I’ve been thinking a lot about some of these distressing issues that we are facing collectively, and I think at times we feel or were made to feel that we champion different causes, but for me, I see commonality. 

I think whether we’re talking about gender equality, or racism, or queer rights, or indigenous rights, or animals rights, we’re talking about the fight against injustice.

We’re talking about the fight against the belief that one nation, one people, one race, one gender or one species has the right to dominate, control, and use and exploit another with impunity.

I think that we’ve become very disconnected with the natural world, and many of us what were guilty of is an egocentric world view; the belief that we’re the center of the universe.

We go into the natural world and we plunder it for its resources. 

We feel entitled to artificially inseminate a cow and when she gives birth we steal her baby, even though her cries of anguish are unmistakable, and then we take her milk that’s intended for her calf and we put it in our coffee and our cereal, and I think we fear the idea of personal change because we think that we have to sacrifice something to give something up, but human beings at are best are so inventive and creative and ingenious, and I think that when we use love and compassion as our guiding principles we can create, develop, and implement systems of change that are beneficial to all sentient beings and to the environment.

And I have been a scoundrel in my life. I’ve been selfish. I’ve been cruel at times, hard to work with, and ungrateful, but so many of you in this room have given me a second chance, and I think that’s when we’re at our best, when we support each other. Not when we cancel each other out for past mistakes, but when we help each other to grow, when we educate each other, when we guide each other toward redemption. That is best of humanity.

When he was 17 my brother wrote this lyric. He said “run to the rescue with love and peace will follow,” thank you.

Don’t look back for too long…

Or you’ll crash…

When you aren’t following your own vision and goals you are likely to follow someone else’s vision and goals.

What are your goals?

Remember and never forget that you are the driver of your life. You are empowered to do great things. Everyone makes mistakes. There’s pain in all our lives. Keep going though. You have something the world needs.

“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.”
Helen Keller

Read more related quotes and ideas here.

Love. Peace. Happiness.

Your Perspective IS Your Reality

“Loving people live in a loving world. Hostile people live in a hostile world. Same world.” 
Wayne Dyer

We’re all living in the same world, but we all have unique perspectives. Our perspective isn’t the ultimate truth about reality, but it’s our truth about reality. 

We see reality through the lens of our individual perspective, which has been shaped and influenced by numerous external factors, but we can take control of our perspective.

A quick way to shift perspective is through gratitude.

Think about and write down all the things you are thankful for.

Begin with one or two, and then you’ll find your list growing. By dwelling in gratitude you can create more of a joyous life, creating a life of abundance, and one that you are in control of.

Love. Peace. Happiness.

5 Joseph Campbell Quotes to Live Fully

“I don’t believe people are looking for the meaning of life as much as they are looking for the experience of being alive.”

^^ What makes you come alive?

The world needs more of this. I do. I think we all do when it’s experiences founded in love.

“The big question is whether you are going to be able to say a hearty yes to your adventure.”

“We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”

“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.”

“The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are.”

It is a privilege

I am deeply thankful to my parents for always encouraging and loving me for who I am. They have shaped my life tremendously 🙂


What are a few of your favorite experiences?

How will you make more time for them?

Thank you for reading.

Peace. Love. Happiness.

Think Like da Vinci: Connect the Unconnected

One warm and sunny afternoon, hundreds of years ago outside Florence Italy, in Fiesole, Leonardo da Vinci took a walk to the hills to study and sketch flying birds. He was fascinated with bats, birds, kites and anything that could fly. 

As da Vinci was studying flying birds he had the idea to combine the thought of flying birds with humans. How can they relate? He wondered, which led him to coming up with the new concept of “flying machines” for humans. Throughout his life he sketched a number of flying machines which he drew centuries ahead of the time when actual progress could be made toward making these machines.

Leonardo da Vinci’s innovative thinking helped “plant seeds” for future generations.

Let’s call this thought-exercise of da Vinci’s “Connecting the Unconnected” because that’s what he called it, haha. He wrote in one of his notebooks that he used this exercise for creative inspiration, and although he suggested others can use this method to inspire brilliant ideas, he wrote about this strategy in a mirror-image reversed script that only he could read. This was a secret sort of backward handwriting he created that you would need a mirror to read.

His innovation was evidently limitless.

In the year 1500 da Vinci discovered that sound travels in waves by using this thought-exercise. Here’s the story:

One day when he was standing near a well he noticed a stone hit the water while a bell went off in a church tower close by. He observed that the stone caused a ripple effect, making small waves until they disappeared. By focusing on the water ripples and the sound of the bell, he dwelled in how they could be connected and came to the conclusion that sound travels in waves.

Yea, wow…I guess this is what genius is.

140 years later, Marin Mersenne was the first to measure the speed of sound in air. Again, da Vinci was ahead of his time.

Einstein is also known for using a similar method of “connecting the unconnected” or “thought experiments” which is how he came up with e=mc².

“Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited, whereas imagination embraces the entire world, stimulating progress, giving birth to evolution.” 
Einstein

Einstein is also quoted with saying:

“I never came upon any of my discoveries through the process of rational thinking.”

So if you’re looking for new ideas, want to be more creative in life, or just want to overcome boredom, try connecting the unconnected. See what innovating ideas you can come up with, and you never know, they may just end up changing the world.

The POWER of Belief

Was there a time when you believed in something so deeply you knew it to be true with all your heart and soul?

Maybe it was around Christmas time, a Holiday, or your first love?

Or maybe it was sitting in a chair you knew wouldn’t break?

Some things are easier to believe in than others, like trusting the chair you’re sitting in won’t break, but what if you could apply that same trust into areas of your life?

Here is one technique that has helped people such as Tony Robbins and many others acquire success:

Ask yourself, “If I had to believe my goals and dreams were possible to attain, how could I believe it?”

As you continue to ask yourself this question, and related questions to help grow your belief, your belief can grow. Here are 2 more questions to ask yourself:

“What would make me believe my goals and dreams are possible?”

And:

“What action can I take today to get closer to my goals and dreams?”

As much as we can think about our goals and dreams, actions are still needed, but it does begin with the mind by asking ourself questions.

Here are a couple quotes from famous people on this:

“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” 
― Albert Einstein

“Watch your thoughts, they become words. Watch your words, they become actions. Watch your actions, they become habit.”
― Laozi

I’ve asked myself these questions, as well as others, and it has led me to some pretty awesome things, like interning with Ryan Holiday, which started as an idea in my mind.

Here is the full story of how it came to be.

Belief is a difficult thing, but we can strengthen our beliefs by consistently programming our brains with quality questions. In time, we will see progress within ourselves, as well as on the outside.

17 Quotes That Will Inspire You to Live Your Dream

1) If you can’t figure out your purpose, figure out your passion. For your passion will lead you right into your purpose.
Bishop T.D. Jakes

2) Almost everything–all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure–these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.
— Steve Jobs

3) I’ve been absolutely terrified every moment of my life and I’ve never let it keep me from doing a single thing that I wanted to do.
— Georgia O’Keefe

4) If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place.
— Nora Roberts

5) A year from now you may wish you had started today. 
Karen Lamb

6) How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.
— Anne Frank

7) Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
— Mark Twain

8) You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.
— C.S. Lewis

9) Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls.
— Joseph Campbell

10) When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.
— Helen Keller

11) Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.
—Arthur Ashe

12) There are those who work all day. Those who dream all day. And those who spend an hour dreaming before setting to work to fulfill those dreams. Go into the third category because there’s virtually no competition.
— Steven J. Ross

13) The Man Who Has Confidence In Himself Gains The Confidence Of Others.
— Hasidic Proverb

14) The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity.
— Amelia Earhart

15) Follow your own passion—not your parents’, not your teachers’—yours. 
Robert Ballard

16) All progress takes place outside of your comfort zone.
Michael Bobak

17) The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. 
Lao Tzu

Perfection IS the Goal. Progress is what we get.

A lot of people say “don’t try to be perfect” but I disagree.


DO try to be perfect but FIRST DEFINE what perfect is for you!


Perfect is an ideal but it IS something to aim for.


If you don’t aim for the bullseye you’ll never hit it.


If you’re a pitcher in baseball you usually aim for the strike zone.
Pitchers aim for perfection.

Aim for progress and you’ll get less than that.

Aim for perfection and you’ll get progress.


Think about areas in your life that you would like to improve and then aim for the best possible outcome.

The more you aim for what you want, the more you’ll get it. Again, a dart thrower wanting to hit bullseye but never aiming for bullseye will most likely never hit it.


Of course not everything will go perfect, but if you never aim for it you’ll never come close.

Set your aim to the best possible outcome, take action, repeat.

Perfection is the aim. Progress is what you get.

Why It’s ESSENTIAL for you to Define Success

Why is it important for you to define success?

  1. It will determine everything you do
  2. Everything you do determines the quality of your future
  3. Your future always comes in the form of ‘today’

Defining success gives you an anchor to what is true to you. It helps you stay focused and puts you on a path toward your success.


“Where focus goes, energy flows.”

Tony Robbins

The term “success” has often been related to having a lot of money, but a more accurate definition of success comes from Oxford Dictionary: “the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.”

If success is the accomplishment of an aim or purpose then success must mean something different to each person.

Maybe success to one person is taking care of their needs while success to someone else is earning $1,000,000 dollars.

The person who defines success as taking care of their needs prioritizes that first in their life, whereas the person who wants to make $1,000,000 dollars may prioritize making money first. Someone who sees success as balancing work with passion will prioritize work with their passion, but in all scenarios each person is guided by what success means to them.

So instead of debating the question “what is real success?” Ask yourself “what does success mean to me?”

When you know what success is for you you automatically put yourself on a path toward that success, but there are distractions all around us. If you don’t have an anchor of what success means to you, to focus on, you’ll get pushed and pulled and never achieve success. Some people spend their entire lives wandering around this Earth questioning why they were never able to achieve success.

Don’t let that be you.

Write down what success means to you on a notecard.
Put it somewhere that you’ll be able to see it everyday.
Let your definition of success guide you to it.